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Did you actually read the link? Seems like she very specifically wants to draw LESS sympathy for herself, at least over this. From her description, her husband

Did you actually read the link? Seems like she very specifically wants to draw LESS sympathy for herself, at least over this. From her description, her husband doesn't seem keen on letting his disability slow him down or prevent him from living life either. As far as the demanding accommodations go, I think ramped entrances and handicapped parking spots are pretty reasonable standards, ones which have been legally mandated for many years now. While I commend your father for finding folks who respect him to do business with, I cannot agree that it is morally wrong to demand equal access. The American Civil Rights Act of 1964, and the 1990 Americans with Disabilities Act both exist because it was determined that equal access to public businesses and accommodations is a moral imperative, and a right even. I don't think the author is out of line for being frustrated that in 2017 it's still difficult to do something as benign as go out to eat with someone who uses a wheelchair.

adam-seeliger 9y ago
Posting a public article is seeking sympathy. If I were her husband, I would be upset at her for opening private family matters to the public. Ramp access, parking spaces, etc, is not an unreasonable expectation at all. But to demand it is another thing. It shouldn’t be a law, but that’s just my opinion. It is law. The funny thing is the disability act has made it worse for those who would really benefit from it. And yes, going out to dinner in a wheelchair is uncomfortable and difficult. That will never change. The fact is that most people are not in that situation. So most establishments don’t often deal with it. That’s the way it is. So, I guess that’s the point my dad was making. Restaurants are mandated to accommodate, if they want to or not. You can tell those who are just following the law. They have no little to no appreciation for the business in someone’s unusual situation. But there are those restaurant owners who really make accommodation a part of their business culture and really want and appreciate people in such a situation. Those really do make it easy and comfortable for people in that situation. Bottom line — there is no blanket right answer. It can’t be answered with legislation. But you can find people who go above and beyond.
passw0rd 9y ago
adam-seeliger deleted a comment it appears, but I'll respond to what was there anyway. No, I'm not embarrassed that my wife wrote this -- it's brilliant writing. No, I'm not embarrassed that she "aired our private lives in public." She didn't. Why would I be embarrassed that my wife writes about my spinal cord injury? Sounds like maybe your father was ashamed of his paraplegia, in which case I'm sorry he felt that way. That is why we need articles like this and more ramps, so people like your father don't feel ashamed of their disabilities.

adam-seeliger 9y ago

Posting a public article is seeking sympathy. If I were her husband, I would be upset at her for opening private family matters to the public. Ramp access, parking spaces, etc, is not an unreasonable expectation at all. But to demand it is another thing. It shouldn’t be a law, but that’s just my opinion. It is law. The funny thing is the disability act has made it worse for those who would really benefit from it. And yes, going out to dinner in a wheelchair is uncomfortable and difficult. That will never change. The fact is that most people are not in that situation. So most establishments don’t often deal with it. That’s the way it is. So, I guess that’s the point my dad was making. Restaurants are mandated to accommodate, if they want to or not. You can tell those who are just following the law. They have no little to no appreciation for the business in someone’s unusual situation. But there are those restaurant owners who really make accommodation a part of their business culture and really want and appreciate people in such a situation. Those really do make it easy and comfortable for people in that situation. Bottom line — there is no blanket right answer. It can’t be answered with legislation. But you can find people who go above and beyond.

passw0rd 9y ago

adam-seeliger deleted a comment it appears, but I'll respond to what was there anyway. No, I'm not embarrassed that my wife wrote this -- it's brilliant writing. No, I'm not embarrassed that she "aired our private lives in public." She didn't. Why would I be embarrassed that my wife writes about my spinal cord injury? Sounds like maybe your father was ashamed of his paraplegia, in which case I'm sorry he felt that way. That is why we need articles like this and more ramps, so people like your father don't feel ashamed of their disabilities.