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I think that the issue is less to do with the family and more to do with the fact that as an adult most of your adult interaction comes from your profession. Yo
by cannonedhamster 9y ago
I think that the issue is less to do with the family and more to do with the fact that as an adult most of your adult interaction comes from your profession. Your friends as a child and young adult come from school, as an adult they only come from social groups that form around things such as sports, hobbies, and social groups such as a church.
With a move to first world status there is usually an associated decrease in religious adherence. People then naturally define themselves as what they do first. Getting friends as an adult is very hard as competing schedules and interests can conspire to push people apart, so the default is to make friends with those with whom your work. As a stay at home parent that requires actually seeking out the parental groups.
tl;dr making friends as an adult is difficult and can lead to loneliness.
- kylehotchkiss 9y agoAs somebody who tried to find a community with religious adherence, I can sadly report making friends in that environment is equally difficult as it is in the real world, you still have to impress people, adopt their vocabulary, etc.
- cannonedhamster 9y agoIt can certainly be difficult regardless of whether or not there is a defined place, but the benefits of a repeated time and place for events, much like sports bars, is what I was getting at. In a sports bar you would still need to support the local team and learn the lingo to impress people, but that doesn't mean it's easy.