I'm hoping to combine this with a lack of understanding on false dichotomy to foster both respect and free thinking... Which are somewhat incongruous goals, so

I'm hoping to combine this with a lack of understanding on false dichotomy to foster both respect and free thinking... Which are somewhat incongruous goals, so it's a toughie. The general idea is to not only talk to them like adults, but allow them to make choices like one also. But I'm hoping that offering controlled choices with consistent consequences will get us there. I'll know I'm in trouble when they start coming up with their own choices...