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Hardest for me was giving myself “permission” to recover. What I mean is that like a NBA star who is in the game but exhausted gets pissed when the coach pulls

Hardest for me was giving myself “permission” to recover. What I mean is that like a NBA star who is in the game but exhausted gets pissed when the coach pulls him out of the game for a breather (even if he desperately needs one) because well he’s the “the man” and you don’t put the man on the bench. I was exhausted, depressed, and anti-social outside work. But I did not want to stop because work was also my identity where I was “the man”. I forced myself (eventually) to take a time out but it has been very difficult being idle and I find myself struggling for something that is interesting and makes me happy to do. I can’t just sit on the bench. I find “doing nothing” basically impossible.

hiaux0 9y ago
Hi dstroot, first of all I want to express my respect for your work ethic. You mentioned that you are actively trying to find ways out of a burnout. For me, it sounds like you are still struggling to find sense in relaxion. So here goes my view on it. Maybe you have already tried stuff like this out: I recommend going deeper into topics like meditation and mindfullness. They specifically teach you how sometimes doing nothing is actually the way to go. By doing nothing they mean that instead - you focus on the moment - let your mind wonder and be 'aware' about how your mind wonders. Another thing would be to explore how your brain processes information. You will find out that creating room for doing nothing will actually enhance your cognitive abilities. The last thing I want to adress are the passiv implication "The-man" has on your enviroment. The-man acts like a certain rolemodel. Your boss surely wants everyone to be The-man but not everyone is capable of doing so. Thus, The - man creates an unrealistic work culture. Additionally coworkers might look up to you and adapt this unhealthy mentality. So I would advice taking advantage of being The-man and change the life of others in a good way.

hiaux0 9y ago

Hi dstroot, first of all I want to express my respect for your work ethic. You mentioned that you are actively trying to find ways out of a burnout. For me, it sounds like you are still struggling to find sense in relaxion. So here goes my view on it. Maybe you have already tried stuff like this out: I recommend going deeper into topics like meditation and mindfullness. They specifically teach you how sometimes doing nothing is actually the way to go. By doing nothing they mean that instead - you focus on the moment - let your mind wonder and be 'aware' about how your mind wonders. Another thing would be to explore how your brain processes information. You will find out that creating room for doing nothing will actually enhance your cognitive abilities. The last thing I want to adress are the passiv implication "The-man" has on your enviroment. The-man acts like a certain rolemodel. Your boss surely wants everyone to be The-man but not everyone is capable of doing so. Thus, The - man creates an unrealistic work culture. Additionally coworkers might look up to you and adapt this unhealthy mentality. So I would advice taking advantage of being The-man and change the life of others in a good way.