4 ms·

I met my wife on match.com After using at least 5 different dating sites over a 10 year period, one of them finally paid off. for all the single guys out ther

I met my wife on match.com After using at least 5 different dating sites over a 10 year period, one of them finally paid off. for all the single guys out there, looking for a GF, here's the strategy. Write a script to copy and paste an intro paragraph and message (make sure to customize it to the profile) every girl you can possibly find, that meets your requirements. It's just a numbers game, the more you play the lottery, the greater the chance of winning. And you only need to win once, for it all to work out. Of course, these days, I expect, there's a lot more captcha's and robo detection mitigation to overcome - I mean it's preferable to bar hopping. But, I bet with some machine learning, you could optimize your response rate.

gallerdude 9y ago
Would you call it inherently better than bar-hopping? Dating services just seem like a huge slog so far...
- pascalxus 9y ago
  Sure, the rejection rate is much higher on dating sites, but that's because the barrier to entries is lower. Just, don't take it personal, treat it as something abstract, like imagine your using a brute force algorithm to crack a code. Its just a matter time before you get in. Just, gotta keep messaging until you get that date. Based on talks I've had with coworkers and friends, a typical first message response rate is something in the 5-10% range. Hey, that's a lot better than most marketing campaigns. With a first date percentage in the 1-2% range. I know that sounds hopelessly low, but, as Paul graham says, in beginning, you gotta do things that don't scale.
- Koshkin 9y ago
  I wonder why would a bar be considered a reasonable place to be looking for a future spouse (vs., say, for a good chat or a one-night stand).
- personlurking 9y ago
  I was thinking about what would make them better and I may have solved it (in my own head, at least). First, there needs to be a system where all single people who are looking for a real relationship (not a hookup) are on it. The system needs to know the top 5 traits a potential partner should have, as well as when you're likely to be free. Then the system automates the rest and sends you, via text, out for a coffee/drink. The rest is up to how you jive together and it may or may not lead to something more. There'd have to be some ML involved to capture the physical attributes you would prefer in a partner so that you never meet someone you're likely to be unattracted to (depending on how much looks matter to you), but the general idea is to have a enormous localized userbase, and pretty much automate the rest. No more slogging.
vinchuco 9y ago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYQWAdAbdfA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYQWAdAbdfA
- pascalxus 9y ago
  lol, that sums it up.

gallerdude 9y ago

Would you call it inherently better than bar-hopping? Dating services just seem like a huge slog so far...

pascalxus 9y ago
Sure, the rejection rate is much higher on dating sites, but that's because the barrier to entries is lower. Just, don't take it personal, treat it as something abstract, like imagine your using a brute force algorithm to crack a code. Its just a matter time before you get in. Just, gotta keep messaging until you get that date. Based on talks I've had with coworkers and friends, a typical first message response rate is something in the 5-10% range. Hey, that's a lot better than most marketing campaigns. With a first date percentage in the 1-2% range. I know that sounds hopelessly low, but, as Paul graham says, in beginning, you gotta do things that don't scale.
Koshkin 9y ago
I wonder why would a bar be considered a reasonable place to be looking for a future spouse (vs., say, for a good chat or a one-night stand).
personlurking 9y ago
I was thinking about what would make them better and I may have solved it (in my own head, at least). First, there needs to be a system where all single people who are looking for a real relationship (not a hookup) are on it. The system needs to know the top 5 traits a potential partner should have, as well as when you're likely to be free. Then the system automates the rest and sends you, via text, out for a coffee/drink. The rest is up to how you jive together and it may or may not lead to something more. There'd have to be some ML involved to capture the physical attributes you would prefer in a partner so that you never meet someone you're likely to be unattracted to (depending on how much looks matter to you), but the general idea is to have a enormous localized userbase, and pretty much automate the rest. No more slogging.

vinchuco 9y ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYQWAdAbdfA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYQWAdAbdfA

pascalxus 9y ago
lol, that sums it up.