A mutual friend introduced us because she was interested in volunteering to mentor kids, and I was already doing it. I knew because it just felt obvious. Can't

A mutual friend introduced us because she was interested in volunteering to mentor kids, and I was already doing it. I knew because it just felt obvious. Can't really say it any other way. Married 7 years next spring. I'd say through everything, the most important thing is, no matter how unpleasant it gets, keep communicating. Like someone else said, don't bottle things up and let resentment grow. Talk it out. Text it out, whatever it takes. And yes, you have to put energy into making it work. You were after all two completely separate people for decades, whose lives have now merged in the most intimate way.