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I met her on a trip during senior year of high school and I pretty much was smitten from the moment I saw her. We were playing cards and she was my partner thou

I met her on a trip during senior year of high school and I pretty much was smitten from the moment I saw her. We were playing cards and she was my partner though we didn't know each other. She talked some serious trash and was super confident and smart. After the 4 day trip, she went back to her boarding school and we wrote letters back and forth (the 90's were so quaint) with the occasional long distance phone call. We ended up attending the same college and were already dating by then. We got married many years later after growing apart and growing back together. I'm always in awe of couples who manage to stay together as they transition to adulthood. You are each very different people from start to end. The hard work of the relationship is in being your natural selves, in maintaining open communication with your partner and yourself. You have to know what you want and communicate it to your partner and you should encourage your partner to do the same. It's very easy to build resentment and bottle those feelings up. That said, remember that beyond being the best partner you can be, you are not responsible for your partner's happiness.

l33tbro 9y ago
Very sweet. I'm interested particularly in the 'growing back together' caveat. I'm soon to marry, and hope to keep to the path of open communication. But it seems easier said than done once responsibilities pile up and free time becomes scarce.
- partisan 9y ago
  It is true that once life happens (kids, work, health), it can be difficult. I don't have the answer. My marriage is in a different place on the success spectrum every day and I don't think it is such that you can set it and forget it. You know where success is: open communication. Use that as your compass when you lose your way. You've found the person you love so you are halfway there. Some pessimistic advice for the other readers who maybe aren't that far down the path of commitment: - Don't get married if you are the type who always needs something better. I hope this is self-explanatory. - The same if you can't find contentment/happiness in yourself. Another person can't give you that. - Don't have children to save a marriage.

l33tbro 9y ago

Very sweet. I'm interested particularly in the 'growing back together' caveat. I'm soon to marry, and hope to keep to the path of open communication. But it seems easier said than done once responsibilities pile up and free time becomes scarce.

partisan 9y ago
It is true that once life happens (kids, work, health), it can be difficult. I don't have the answer. My marriage is in a different place on the success spectrum every day and I don't think it is such that you can set it and forget it. You know where success is: open communication. Use that as your compass when you lose your way. You've found the person you love so you are halfway there. Some pessimistic advice for the other readers who maybe aren't that far down the path of commitment: - Don't get married if you are the type who always needs something better. I hope this is self-explanatory. - The same if you can't find contentment/happiness in yourself. Another person can't give you that. - Don't have children to save a marriage.