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> That’s exactly why romance and sexual have no place in the office, on either side. But it so happens that I am at work pretty much all day including a lot of

by pen2l 9y ago

> That’s exactly why romance and sexual have no place in the office, on either side. But it so happens that I am at work pretty much all day including a lot of weekends. My work is my life. If you're going to tell me that I am simply not allowed to get involved with a person at a place where my life is, it means that I will likely be alone for a very long while. Especially since I am not a bar person (I'm petite, shy when meeting new people, and can't speak loudly, bars/clubs are a no-go and I don't have much of a social network other than from work). I have a suspicion that you work in a field and in an area where you are afforded the luxury of time and resources to be able to operate within the constraints you now stipulate. Many do not, and they cannot find their human need for romance met if you suddenly say that romance-at-work is off-limits.

bitL 9y ago
Frankly, here I agree with the post you replied to - romantic relationships at work are a huge, unpredictable liability. It's better to completely separate work life from romantic life if you can afford it, otherwise you might get labeled "creepy" and instantly booted out of company with limited future employment prospects or worse. Only the adaptable survive; you might not like what's coming but disregarding the new rules however irrational the may be might cost you a lot.
rayiner 9y ago
> I have a suspicion that you work in a field and in an area where you are afforded the luxury of time and resources to be able to operate within the constraints you now stipulate. I'm a lawyer so I'm pretty much always working. > Many do not, and they cannot find their human need for romance met if you suddenly say that romance-at-work is off-limits. This is a selfish viewpoint. There's lots of appropriate places to find romance. Thanks to Tindr and online dating, we can even do it in a context where people can signal when they're seeking romantic advances (such that making such an advance won't be an imposition on a person just trying to go about her day). But the office is not one of those places. The office is where women who studied hard in school toil to put a roof over their heads, food in their kids' mouths, secure health insurance so they don't die if they get cancer. It's a serious endeavor, every bit as serious for them as it is for you. And they deserve to be able to engage in it without having to put up with the politics and anxiety that goes along with romantic advances in the workplace.
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by pen2l 9y ago

bitL 9y ago

Frankly, here I agree with the post you replied to - romantic relationships at work are a huge, unpredictable liability. It's better to completely separate work life from romantic life if you can afford it, otherwise you might get labeled "creepy" and instantly booted out of company with limited future employment prospects or worse. Only the adaptable survive; you might not like what's coming but disregarding the new rules however irrational the may be might cost you a lot.

rayiner 9y ago

> I have a suspicion that you work in a field and in an area where you are afforded the luxury of time and resources to be able to operate within the constraints you now stipulate. I'm a lawyer so I'm pretty much always working. > Many do not, and they cannot find their human need for romance met if you suddenly say that romance-at-work is off-limits. This is a selfish viewpoint. There's lots of appropriate places to find romance. Thanks to Tindr and online dating, we can even do it in a context where people can signal when they're seeking romantic advances (such that making such an advance won't be an imposition on a person just trying to go about her day). But the office is not one of those places. The office is where women who studied hard in school toil to put a roof over their heads, food in their kids' mouths, secure health insurance so they don't die if they get cancer. It's a serious endeavor, every bit as serious for them as it is for you. And they deserve to be able to engage in it without having to put up with the politics and anxiety that goes along with romantic advances in the workplace.

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