I don't really know. To me, it's always seemed that the best, and most interesting, discussions are the ones with some "meat" to them. My wife's uncle was a ve

I don't really know. To me, it's always seemed that the best, and most interesting, discussions are the ones with some "meat" to them. My wife's uncle was a very loud man. He was also well read and intelligent. I didn't agree with him on everything, but greatly enjoyed our discussions (particularly the ones accompanied by good scotch). His sons later recounted a phrase he had used commonly. I paraphrase, but it was something akin to: "Argue with the person across the table as though you love them." I'm butchering the phrasing here, but I believe the sentiment holds. To Terry, a heated debate was a positive thing, and never an attack--no matter how fierce the discussion became. I've always liked that thinking, and believe it's the way we actually learn new things and strengthen our resolve on what we believe.