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Thank you, I appreciate your ears. I have been trying to get her into couples counseling or even just individual counseling for over a year. She just never mak
by throwaway413 9y ago
Thank you, I appreciate your ears.
I have been trying to get her into couples counseling or even just individual counseling for over a year. She just never makes it happen. I started counseling individually 2 months ago. She came to 1 session, I booked her a follow up, but she cancelled it. She has theoretically agreed to couple counseling in the past, but now couldn’t be bothered.
She thinks her IG friends are her counselors, starting the echo chamber cycle.
- late2part 9y agoWhen you read this article, what do you think? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency
- throwaway413 9y agoOh yeah. I think I have continued to let her act this way because being with her, being married, our family, has all been such a huge part of my identity...but that's not a bad thing to me. I guess then it must be my responsibility if I actually care about her to leave her, so she can overcome her own stuff. Which is where I'm currently at...it just fucking sucks.
- late2part 9y agoIt does just fucking suck. And I’m very sorry that you have to go through this. The hardest part of love and relationships being vulnerable and knowing that sometimes it doesn’t work out. You guys have a kid together, and that’s more important than anything. Take care of your kid and take care of yourself. She’s chosen not to take care of you.
- sillysaurus3 9y agoHow're you doing today? Do you want anyone to talk to?
- throwaway413 9y agoI'm doing pretty well actually today, thanks for asking - it really means a lot. I made a few different calls this morning and setup an appointment with a lawyer later this week to sit down and get everything better sorted. I started talking to a couple of my friends more about it and they have been surprisingly supportive of me, calling me, etc. Not feeling as alone as when I wake up at 3am and realize I'm all alone, which I'm not used to, but at least I know I'm sadly not alone in that boat and can relate to others. Thanks again for reaching out. I'll shoot you an email.
- xor1 9y agohttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Histrionic_personality_disorder https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Histrionic_personality_disorde... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorde... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disor... Do these sound like her at all?
- sillysaurus3 9y agoPlease feel free to email me. Sometimes I'm up at 3am anyway, and I can relate to the whole "waking up feeling alone" experience. Just try to remember, it's temporary.