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Yes, but first he needs to contact a lawyer. He has already made several fatal moves: 1. Left the marital home which the courts will consider abandonment. She

Yes, but first he needs to contact a lawyer. He has already made several fatal moves: 1. Left the marital home which the courts will consider abandonment. She just won legal custody. 2. He is paying her $4K or whatever a month without any judicial order. None of this will count towards future spousal or child support - instead it is a gift that establishes her minimum financial need. 3. He is (probably) not documenting, down to the minute, the time he spends with his child. Again, there goes custody. 4. The next call from the playbook will be to get him for domestic violence. As the man, it is absolutely irrelevant if there is proof or not (see the Duluth Model). He's not recording every interaction with her, though he should be. If you do nothing else, start reading: http://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewforum.php?f=12 http://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewforum.php?f=12 - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duluth_model https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duluth_model

throwaway413 9y ago
Ok this is what I’m fucking terrified of. I left the home because she kept asking me to stop sleeping in my own bed so her girlfriend could sleep there with her. I endured that for months. What else was I supposed to do? I’m not going to make the mistake of becoming physical, nor do I have the reactionary desire to. I’m going to contact a lawyer today.
late2part 9y ago
Another point of view that I read about somewhere: 1. His wife was bringing home lovers to have sex with in the marital bed while he was home. He was not okay with this and asked her to stop and she became violent, combatant, abusive and irrational, yelling, screaming, throwing things in front of their child. 2. He is paying for his child to live in his house. He has asked his wife to surrender their child to him and she has refused, saying she wants to raise the child in a commune with other pansexual stay-at-home house wives. 3. He has reconstructed down to the minute all the time he has spent with his wife, and all of the mistakes and problems his wife has had with him. He has cell phone logs and text messages which corroborate this, as well as GPS locations. 4. I suspect that recently, while he's talking with his wife about how to amicably separate and take care of their child, his wife will physically attack him and he will call the police and show him the bruises.

throwaway413 9y ago

Ok this is what I’m fucking terrified of. I left the home because she kept asking me to stop sleeping in my own bed so her girlfriend could sleep there with her. I endured that for months. What else was I supposed to do? I’m not going to make the mistake of becoming physical, nor do I have the reactionary desire to. I’m going to contact a lawyer today.

late2part 9y ago

Another point of view that I read about somewhere: 1. His wife was bringing home lovers to have sex with in the marital bed while he was home. He was not okay with this and asked her to stop and she became violent, combatant, abusive and irrational, yelling, screaming, throwing things in front of their child. 2. He is paying for his child to live in his house. He has asked his wife to surrender their child to him and she has refused, saying she wants to raise the child in a commune with other pansexual stay-at-home house wives. 3. He has reconstructed down to the minute all the time he has spent with his wife, and all of the mistakes and problems his wife has had with him. He has cell phone logs and text messages which corroborate this, as well as GPS locations. 4. I suspect that recently, while he's talking with his wife about how to amicably separate and take care of their child, his wife will physically attack him and he will call the police and show him the bruises.