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You’re right. I need to just stop paying her bills. I’m worried she’s going to get nastier and keep my child from me out of spite. And I hear you, but - I work

You’re right. I need to just stop paying her bills. I’m worried she’s going to get nastier and keep my child from me out of spite. And I hear you, but - I work from home. When I said “come home from work” I just meant it like...end of the day. I don’t know why I still use that phrase. Sometimes I go work at coffee shops or something, so then I’ll come home. Sure maybe I’m not as present, since I am working, but she has it so much better than so many others out there.. I’ve worked from home for years. She’s had me home. I help with our child. I cooked dinner. I did the chores. It wasn’t like she was even the only stay at home parent... I haven’t gotten divorced yet because I hold onto that vision of her coming back and begging for forgiveness. But I should know that’s not going to happen. And even if it did, after all this, idk if I could even take her back. I should probably just file...

watwut 9y ago
Whether you file or not, you should talk to lawyer. If all of your actions are motivated by child related fears, the lawyer can advise you on what to do to make sure you have access to kid and look good during potential divorce. Marriage counseling might be a good idea too. The relationship has zero chance to rebuild if both of you don't change. (She for obvious reasons and you basically so that you wont become victim of the same thing again. It sounds like the more you try, the less does she, then you try more, then she does even less. That is bad dynamic.) If you by the end of your home work have to ask how was the day and then are surprised over those Facebook details, then there is not much difference against being at work from the relationship standpoint. I don't mean it as blame you, just that this would factor in into relationship social network present or not. But you know, that does not explain polygamy part still. Not your fear of child being used against you.
- throwaway413 9y ago
  Yeah. Good points, I appreciate your perspective. I’ve been going to therapy for 2 months now independently. We did one appointment together. She cancelled her follow up. We agreed to go to counseling together over a year ago but she just never followed through, even when I tried to.

watwut 9y ago

Whether you file or not, you should talk to lawyer. If all of your actions are motivated by child related fears, the lawyer can advise you on what to do to make sure you have access to kid and look good during potential divorce. Marriage counseling might be a good idea too. The relationship has zero chance to rebuild if both of you don't change. (She for obvious reasons and you basically so that you wont become victim of the same thing again. It sounds like the more you try, the less does she, then you try more, then she does even less. That is bad dynamic.) If you by the end of your home work have to ask how was the day and then are surprised over those Facebook details, then there is not much difference against being at work from the relationship standpoint. I don't mean it as blame you, just that this would factor in into relationship social network present or not. But you know, that does not explain polygamy part still. Not your fear of child being used against you.

throwaway413 9y ago
Yeah. Good points, I appreciate your perspective. I’ve been going to therapy for 2 months now independently. We did one appointment together. She cancelled her follow up. We agreed to go to counseling together over a year ago but she just never followed through, even when I tried to.