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As an author of dozens of open-source projects, I was really surprised how entitled / rude people can be. I was even told f-word just because I used babel for c
by _sqhj 9y ago
As an author of dozens of open-source projects, I was really surprised how entitled / rude people can be. I was even told f-word just because I used babel for compiling JS. I was like WTF. Some people act as if they are my paying customers when I get zero compensation from my open source projects. I just share my work because I think they can be useful for some. I don't have any obligations to solve their problems.
- boxerab 9y agoyes, the sense of entitlement of some people is very surprising.
- sheetjs 9y ago"If you give a mouse a cookie, the mouse will ask for a glass of milk"
- iagooar 9y agoThat's a fun expression, first time I hear it! In Polish, you would say "you give a finger, and they'll take the whole hand".
- analogmemory 9y agoIt's the title of a popular children's book :) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/If_You_Give_a_Mouse_a_Cookie https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/If_You_Give_a_Mouse_a_Cookie
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- cutcss 9y agoIn many Spanish countries we have a similar one: "le das la mano y agarran el codo", which translates "you give them a hand and they'll grab the elbow".
- vturner 9y ago"Give someone an inch, and they will ask for a mile!"
- eitland 9y agoSame in Norwegian :-)
- iagooar 9y agoLanguages and cultures are such a fascinating thing. How can Polish and Norwegian come up with the same expression, without a shared, common ancestry and the countries not being direct neighbours.
- rosstex 9y ago"Give a man a fish, and he'll ask for two." Wait...
- wzsddtc 9y agoIn Chinese it's give people an inch and they would want a foot.
- Clubber 9y agoI like the possibly unintended double meaning of "foot."
- Moru 9y agoThis exists everwhere. Just today I heard it from a member of the archery club. He thought he didn't have to help for free, he wants to get salary for helping with preparation for competitions and other things we do. The egoistic culture is here more than ever.
- sadf2323 9y agoOh stop it. Some segment of the population has always behaved like an entitled brat, we usually call them rich. Just because YOU haven't encountered it so much doesn't mean human culture suddenly got spoiled.
- mschuetz 9y agoAnd I have people demand I use babel. Whatever you do, it'll be wrong either way.
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- jmcdiesel 9y agoKeep in mind, the entitlement works both ways... This isnt just for you, more of a general thing. Ive seen it a lot in this thread alone. Creating an OSS project doesn't entitle you to be treated a certain way either. Nothing does. Being entitled at ALL is bad, so expecting good or bad is just a waste. I try to live more by the "give everything you can, expect nothing in return, be grateful if something comes" mentality. Shitty people are going to be shitty people, and most of them are shitty for a reason - so feel bad for them, not angry or annoyed at them. Nobody WANTS to be an asshole...
- Clubber 9y agoI would say if you are giving a gift to someone who wants / needs it, you are entitled to a little courtesy.
- jmcdiesel 9y agoNah, you're not. Entitlement only leads to disapointment. It's bad all around, from my perspective. You can't be entitled to something AND appreciate it at the same time. So, a lack of entitlement of being treated well leads to appreciating more when you are treated well. If nothing else, its a fun sociology/psychology conversation.
- joonhocho 9y agoI don't want any thank you notes. Never asked and never will. I just don't like people who are rude, and I find them annoying. I don't know what's wrong with feeling annoyed by them being rude to me.
- jmcdiesel 9y agoBecause being annoyed doesn't affect them, only you. Choosing to experience negative emotion because someone does something is self-harm. When you are entitled to something, you expect it, and you can't expect something and be truly appreciative of it at the same time. When you don't expect good though, the bad doesn't upset you, and the good, you actually genuinely appreciate.