Agreed on all points. Perhaps I'm advocating for a frivolous courtesy versus a fully rational process. Maybe the rational process works better than my suggeste

Agreed on all points. Perhaps I'm advocating for a frivolous courtesy versus a fully rational process. Maybe the rational process works better than my suggested approach, but my intuition says no, and would prefer that it be done in a way that communicates "I can help you, but money is a requirement", not "I really wish you would fuck off, but here's an alternative".