If you're thinking, "I wish there's something I could have said", don't say "What happened?" That focuses on the problem. Maybe they don't want to talk about it

If you're thinking, "I wish there's something I could have said", don't say "What happened?" That focuses on the problem. Maybe they don't want to talk about it. Ask "Are you OK?" You can always say this even if there's nothing wrong. If they say "Yes, why?", they're your friend. If they say "Fine." then they don't trust you. If they tell you "No, ..." they think you're a close friend. Then ask "What can I do to help you? You're not alone." Focus on the solution. If you want to know if someone trusts you, just ask "Are you OK?" and they will tell you. In my situation, I found out that while suicide would have been a "shut down", moving to another country was a "reboot". I no longer have anywhere to call "home", but it's better than being stuck in that miserable place.