> It took me a while to realize that no matter how close you are to someone or how much they claim to love you, people simply cannot keep secrets. I learned thi

> It took me a while to realize that no matter how close you are to someone or how much they claim to love you, people simply cannot keep secrets. I learned this a few years ago when I thought I was gay and told people. The more harmful the secret, the juicier the gossip and the more likely you are to be betrayed. People don't care about their word or what they've promised, they just do whatever the fuck they want and justify it later. It feels incredibly lonely to realize you can never share something with someone and have it be between just the two of you. This passage was very resonating. I guess part of adulthood is to adjust your expectations of other people, that is, no expectations at all. If you hold your closest mates to any standard of decency, you're bound to be disappointed.