Hmmm. I wasn't considering the offendor's perspective. Here I'm mainly thinking of us on the recieving end. From this standpoint, by blaming Linus or whomever

Hmmm. I wasn't considering the offendor's perspective. Here I'm mainly thinking of us on the recieving end. From this standpoint, by blaming Linus or whomever for our emotional reactions, we end up disempowering ourselves quite a bit. There's a lot less we can do about Linus than about our own emotions and psychology, which is why I think it's useful/skillful to introspect instead of blame. With the roles reversed though, it's certainly more helpful/skillful to focus on how we can communicate effectively. Blaming others' actions/reactions is just as disempowering as before.