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I didn't downvote you, but I think you may be getting downvotes because of the sentence that begins with "But." > People should absolutely be allowed to dress

I didn't downvote you, but I think you may be getting downvotes because of the sentence that begins with "But." > People should absolutely be allowed to dress how they please without fear of judgment. As the article says, "I do my best engineering when sitting half-naked at my desk." There's nothing wrong with that. That's it. Full stop. There's nothing to add after that. You don't need to add "but..." and then state the exact opposite of that sentiment. You find something weird about someone? Guess what -- we're all weird. Somebody out there probably finds something about you weird. But who gives a shit! Life's a lot better once you just get over it and accept people despite their weirdness. Or even better, because of their weirdness.

richard_todd 9y ago
Telling someone what they do or don’t “need to add” when they are respectfully sharing their personal experience doesn’t sound like acceptance to me. I can only imagine how much better your life can still get.
- discoursism 9y ago
  I don't think, "questionable opinions about other people's choices which don't affect you at all," count as personal experience. Unless by "personal experience," we mean, "all possible utterances."
  - richard_todd 9y ago
    Phasma’s post acknowledges that the opinion is questionable by comparing it to an ideal (that her appearance/presentation shouldn’t matter), and calling that disparity “something I struggle with.” That was my interpretation of the post, anyway. Re-reading it now, I still see it the same way. If you do not, then clearly we will interpret the responses to the post differently as well.
exodust 9y ago
I think PhasmaFelis has a valid point. I'd add that what she's doing is not the healthiest role model for young girls growing up, given the issues with sexism in tech/professional industries. Tech achievements aside, the flaunting of her breast implants is sad. In the unlikely case she has not had plastic surgery, she still seems to be asking people first to "check out my body" and then "btw, I make things too". I would have the same problem with a man who got 6-pack implants and flaunted his abs with his tech profile. It's short-term shallowness, and undoes the achievements in her field. And so I won't be following what she does, and will now leave this discussion for others.
- billylindeman 9y ago
  Why is it sad? I think that its refreshing to see a woman be fearless in expressing her femininity / sexuality AND her interest / expertise in tech. They're not mutually exclusive. A woman saying "check out my body, I'm sexy" shouldn't disqualify the "btw I make things." The tone of your comment is along the lines of "she was asking for it" :\
  - exodust 9y ago
    There's nothing fearless or feminine about implants. The "camera review" videos on her channel where she walks around with selfie stick pointing at her boobs. That's just poor taste click bait, not "expressing femininity". View count jumps above 1 million the less she wears, but at what cost? I've no idea about the main story of apology, I just found this today and commenting on her channel and choice of brand promotion. This to me would easily cause lack of trust with whatever she does, simply because of her willingness to self-exploit for view count.
- icebraining 9y ago
  Do you consider yourself the healthiest role model for young people growing up? I know I don't. Why should she have to be?

richard_todd 9y ago

Telling someone what they do or don’t “need to add” when they are respectfully sharing their personal experience doesn’t sound like acceptance to me. I can only imagine how much better your life can still get.

discoursism 9y ago
I don't think, "questionable opinions about other people's choices which don't affect you at all," count as personal experience. Unless by "personal experience," we mean, "all possible utterances."
- richard_todd 9y ago
  Phasma’s post acknowledges that the opinion is questionable by comparing it to an ideal (that her appearance/presentation shouldn’t matter), and calling that disparity “something I struggle with.” That was my interpretation of the post, anyway. Re-reading it now, I still see it the same way. If you do not, then clearly we will interpret the responses to the post differently as well.

exodust 9y ago

I think PhasmaFelis has a valid point. I'd add that what she's doing is not the healthiest role model for young girls growing up, given the issues with sexism in tech/professional industries. Tech achievements aside, the flaunting of her breast implants is sad. In the unlikely case she has not had plastic surgery, she still seems to be asking people first to "check out my body" and then "btw, I make things too". I would have the same problem with a man who got 6-pack implants and flaunted his abs with his tech profile. It's short-term shallowness, and undoes the achievements in her field. And so I won't be following what she does, and will now leave this discussion for others.

billylindeman 9y ago
Why is it sad? I think that its refreshing to see a woman be fearless in expressing her femininity / sexuality AND her interest / expertise in tech. They're not mutually exclusive. A woman saying "check out my body, I'm sexy" shouldn't disqualify the "btw I make things." The tone of your comment is along the lines of "she was asking for it" :\
- exodust 9y ago
  There's nothing fearless or feminine about implants. The "camera review" videos on her channel where she walks around with selfie stick pointing at her boobs. That's just poor taste click bait, not "expressing femininity". View count jumps above 1 million the less she wears, but at what cost? I've no idea about the main story of apology, I just found this today and commenting on her channel and choice of brand promotion. This to me would easily cause lack of trust with whatever she does, simply because of her willingness to self-exploit for view count.
icebraining 9y ago
Do you consider yourself the healthiest role model for young people growing up? I know I don't. Why should she have to be?