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> Nobody will talk with me. They're not singling you out. Seattle people don't talk to random strangers on the street or transit unless there's an actual reas

by curtis 9y ago

> Nobody will talk with me. They're not singling you out. Seattle people don't talk to random strangers on the street or transit unless there's an actual reason. This aspect of the city is well known: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Freeze https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Freeze. The good news is that it's not personal. The bad news is that it's still difficult to get to know people. There are some exceptions to the rule. If you're a coffee drinker, you can definitely talk to your barista (about half of them are really friendly in my experience), and if you have a dog, you can talk to other people who have dogs (you might think I'm joking, but I am not). Your best bet for human interaction is to join some sort of formal group. I still have a group of friends I made through Seattle Works (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Works https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Works) a decade ago.

rifung 9y ago
> They're not singling you out. Seattle people don't talk to random strangers on the street or transit unless there's an actual reason. This aspect of the city is well known: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Freeze https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Freeze. Is this unique to Seattle? I don't think I've lived anywhere (lived in both north and south CA previously) where people just talked to random people. I feel like that's just one part of being in a big place? No point saying hi to every single person because there's way too many people and you're unlikely to see most of them ever again.
icelancer 9y ago
This is completely normal to any city that has a lot of transplants. At 24 years old, showing up to a city and expecting to become inner-circle friends with people who came up through high school is not reasonable, and people give up "making friends" fast. Source: I moved to Seattle at 22 and have more friends here than I ever had in my previous life.

by curtis 9y ago

rifung 9y ago

> They're not singling you out. Seattle people don't talk to random strangers on the street or transit unless there's an actual reason. This aspect of the city is well known: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Freeze https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Freeze. Is this unique to Seattle? I don't think I've lived anywhere (lived in both north and south CA previously) where people just talked to random people. I feel like that's just one part of being in a big place? No point saying hi to every single person because there's way too many people and you're unlikely to see most of them ever again.

icelancer 9y ago

This is completely normal to any city that has a lot of transplants. At 24 years old, showing up to a city and expecting to become inner-circle friends with people who came up through high school is not reasonable, and people give up "making friends" fast. Source: I moved to Seattle at 22 and have more friends here than I ever had in my previous life.