Well, the "nice guys", who often get upset that women go after the aggressive/manly/"jerk" guys instead of them, and who secretly do believe that women owe them

Well, the "nice guys", who often get upset that women go after the aggressive/manly/"jerk" guys instead of them, and who secretly do believe that women owe them something, would generally be considered jerks. However, few would ascribe aggression as a trait of theirs.