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Then I guess that person isn't sincerely apologizing.
by meri_dian 9y ago
Then I guess that person isn't sincerely apologizing.
- forapurpose 9y agoWhy isn't it sincere? Do you mean that if they were sincere, they'd stop the behavior? Unfortunately, I think human behavior and relations are far more difficult than that. To a significant degree behavior isn't subject to will, though we like to assume it is. Everyone I know makes the same mistakes over and over (different mistakes for different people); they would sincerely like to stop. IME, to survive in relationships we have no choice but to accept those things in ourselves and in others. Of course, that makes accountability very complicated, but I think it's a fact of life.
- ImSkeptical 9y agoMy mother told me that "sorry" means "I won't do it again.". Maybe that's not exactly right, or standard, but I think it's pretty close. "Sorry I stepped on your toes.". That was probably an accident. "Sorry I did it again. And again." This is probably not an accident.
- felipelemos 9y agoGreat example. It's hard to know what are the exact intentions when someone speaks, but it's easy to judge by its actions.
- raverbashing 9y ago> Do you mean that if they were sincere, they'd stop the behavior? Yes
- lloeki 9y ago> Why isn't it sincere? Do you mean that if they were sincere, they'd stop the behavior? Not trying to excuse any behaviour or anything, but it's indeed quite fathomable that even with all the best intent in the world you can't change your behaviour overnight, forever, with a perfect track record.
- snowwrestler 9y agoYes obviously--the question is what will management do about it.