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> asking a woman if she wants to come over to your house tonight to taste whiskey with you Does she like whiskey? Have you talked about this before? If a co
by colanderman 9y ago
> asking a woman if she wants to come over to your house tonight to taste whiskey with you
Does she like whiskey? Have you talked about this before?
If a co-worker invited me (who never talks about alcohol) to his house to come "taste whiskey" I'd be confused and try to figure out the pretext. Were I a woman, the obvious pretext is "sexual advance".
> group ski trip with a reservation for only one hotel room
That's weird man, regardless of whether it's co-ed.
> join me for dinner to talk about project/feature.
Again, weird; I'm looking for the pretext. Unless we're already good friends, in which case this is a non-issue even if I'm female.
> let's go visit the hot springs
Where the hell do you work?? These are not things you do with co-workers, these are things you do with close friends.
- ThomPete 9y agowere do you work? i have gone on ski trips, summer trips, saunas and strip clubs with my male and female colleagues. nothing weird about the examples mentioned
- colanderman 9y agoInviting co-workers with whom you are not already on very good terms to a sauna or strip club is very weird and anti-social. (Why? Because you force those who would be uncomfortable attending to either self-exclude from the work social group, or give in to peer pressure. Or you don't invite them in the first place, which ensures they feel excluded.) And if you are on very good terms with them, well, they're not going to complain to HR because they're your friends.
- ThomPete 9y agoWhy wouldnt i be on good terms with my co-workers?