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A woman at work constantly speaks in tones of sexual innuendo, when she comes over to someone asking for help or whatever, she leans over you and places her han

A woman at work constantly speaks in tones of sexual innuendo, when she comes over to someone asking for help or whatever, she leans over you and places her hand on your shoulder or thigh. As a man in today’s climate the double standard is painfully obvious. Follow her example and you’d be on your ass fast.

colanderman 9y ago
What double standard? If a female co-worker did that to me I'd bring it up with HR. And – I'm making the assumption that you are probably in tech and therefore probably in a male-dominated workplace – unlike a woman in your situation, you can almost certainly call out the individual in question with zero fear of consequences to your career. Without knowing specifics, my prejudice is that you are in no position to complain. (My assumptions could be wrong.)
- erikbye 9y ago
  The double standard is that she still has her job but a man wouldn’t.
  - colanderman 9y ago
    Bullshit. Tens of thousands of men who sexually harass women get away scot-free day in day out. The men you mention lost their jobs because the women they harassed spoke out (and almost always, they did so under fear of reprisal). It didn't just "happen". Have you spoken to HR or your boss?
  - _MK_ 9y ago
    Guess whose job it is to bring it with HR and make sure they understand the double standard you see? You and everyone else you can round up that agrees with you. Make it happen like women have always had to do.
  - Kluny 9y ago
    Bring it up with HR. See what happens.
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comstock 9y ago
Yes, it happens. In my view what your describing is also unacceptable behavior. In the past I would have overlooked it, at this point I wouldn’t accept it and I’d ask her to stop and mention it to her manager/ my manager (or HR). I have no doubt that women suffer from harassment more in the workplace. But this behavior is also not ok.

colanderman 9y ago

What double standard? If a female co-worker did that to me I'd bring it up with HR. And – I'm making the assumption that you are probably in tech and therefore probably in a male-dominated workplace – unlike a woman in your situation, you can almost certainly call out the individual in question with zero fear of consequences to your career. Without knowing specifics, my prejudice is that you are in no position to complain. (My assumptions could be wrong.)

erikbye 9y ago
The double standard is that she still has her job but a man wouldn’t.
- colanderman 9y ago
  Bullshit. Tens of thousands of men who sexually harass women get away scot-free day in day out. The men you mention lost their jobs because the women they harassed spoke out (and almost always, they did so under fear of reprisal). It didn't just "happen". Have you spoken to HR or your boss?
- _MK_ 9y ago
  Guess whose job it is to bring it with HR and make sure they understand the double standard you see? You and everyone else you can round up that agrees with you. Make it happen like women have always had to do.
- Kluny 9y ago
  Bring it up with HR. See what happens.

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comstock 9y ago

Yes, it happens. In my view what your describing is also unacceptable behavior. In the past I would have overlooked it, at this point I wouldn’t accept it and I’d ask her to stop and mention it to her manager/ my manager (or HR). I have no doubt that women suffer from harassment more in the workplace. But this behavior is also not ok.