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Yeah it doesn't help that a lot of programmers are traditionally "nerds" who have grown up being bullied by others (I did). It is possible to understand how to
by pm90 9y ago
Yeah it doesn't help that a lot of programmers are traditionally "nerds" who have grown up being bullied by others (I did).
It is possible to understand how to handle this kind of behaviors though. I would wager that most software engineers could certainly learn a bit more about behavioral psychology. In particular, although it is still a little taboo, I would recommend talking to a therapist even if one doesn't seem to exhibit any explicit pathologies. Its rather shocking just how much our formative experiences influence the subconscious throughout our lives; and in my opinion it is helpful to at least understand that better, if not to change them.
- zzzeek 9y ago> In particular, although it is still a little taboo, I would recommend talking to a therapist even if one doesn't seem to exhibit any explicit pathologies. it is? wow that's sad. there's all kinds of therapists and lots are pretty crappy but I don't see the benefit to society by creating a "taboo" around the entire concept of talking about your personal problems to a paid advisor.
- wccrawford 9y agoAdmitting that you have a weakness has always been taboo, if for not other reason than than it gives people a way to attack you. If people were all nice, then it wouldn't be a problem. But there are far too many opportunistic jerks out there to not worry about exposing your vulnerabilities.
- digi_owl 9y agoEspecially as tech has picked up more and more of a "jock" approach to things as the salaries kept going up up up.