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I found the line of questioning and discussion by the manager of the employee he "told off" to be profound, yet succinct: > 1. Was it my intent to make his sta
by davidkuhta 9y ago
I found the line of questioning and discussion by the manager of the employee he "told off" to be profound, yet succinct:
> 1. Was it my intent to make his staff unproductive?
> 2. Do you think you could have told my engineer what you needed to, in a way that left them feeling positive and motivated to fix it?
> Always do that in the future, please.
- darethas 9y agoIn my case, for most my teenage and short adult life I was always left "feeling positive and motivated" except I would always fall back into the same habits. I started to expect the gentleness and kindness. What I needed was a good ass whooping. If I look back at my life in hindsight, I learned the most when I was under the gun -- had to succeed, failure not an option -- not "motivated" and "positively influenced" Maybe there is a "non-asshole" way to do that, but there needs to be a place for this in society as well. Some people respond to gentleness and nudges, some don't. The person I think back early in my career when I was an associate and my first tech lead -- yes! he was the biggest asshole I met at that time -- but it would be remiss of me to not admit that I learned and stretched more on his team than I did the rest of my time at that company by a mile.
- lazyasciiart 9y agoHow are you defining 'motivated'? To me it seems like an oxymoron to be motivated and not do anything.
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