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My tips: 1. Invite each guest individually. Don’t use a mass mail or an online service 2. It’s not about the food. 3. Serve something you’ve cooked several t

My tips: 1. Invite each guest individually. Don’t use a mass mail or an online service 2. It’s not about the food. 3. Serve something you’ve cooked several times before. Or order in. Or make cooking a communal process.

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ghaff 9y ago
#3 isn’t necessarily my style but not sure why the downvotes.
- jraph 9y ago
  I wondered the same for the downvotes. #3 (communal process) can be really fun and enjoyable. It depends on the people. Each time I experienced it, people were always having great time. Perfection should not be sought. Letting people add their creativity can help. It can really be a good idea. But do not force anyone not willing to participate and do not make such people feel like they are jerks. #2 really depends on the people. It has been wrong most of the cases in my experience. People often enjoy food. Food is part of the pleasure for many people!
  - dogruck 9y ago
    I enjoy good food too. Certainly depends on the people. For others, food is a tremedous point of stress. But I think all people can enjoy a dinner party, regardless of the food. Two somewhat related cultural touchstones: 1. Truman Capote’s party of the century — the menu hardly seems like a highlight: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_and_White_Ball https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_and_White_Ball > The night's menu, to be served at midnight, consisted of scrambled eggs, sausages, biscuits, pastries, spaghetti and meatballs and chicken hash, a specialty of the Plaza and one of Capote's favorite dishes. 2. Dialog from Glengarry Glen Ross: Ricky: Did you ever take a dump - made you feel like you'd just slept for twelve hours? James Lingk: That I - Ricky: Yes? [James Lingk laughs.] James Lingk: I don't know. Ricky: Or a piss? Great meals fade in reflection. Everything else gains. You know why? 'Cause it's only food. This shit we put on us keeps us going. It's only food. The great fucks you may have had, what do you remember about 'em?
joshuaheard 9y ago
#3. Yes, never cook something for the first time at a large dinner party.
francisofascii 9y ago
#1 is fine, but the guest should be aware the invitation is not exclusive.

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ghaff 9y ago

#3 isn’t necessarily my style but not sure why the downvotes.

jraph 9y ago
I wondered the same for the downvotes. #3 (communal process) can be really fun and enjoyable. It depends on the people. Each time I experienced it, people were always having great time. Perfection should not be sought. Letting people add their creativity can help. It can really be a good idea. But do not force anyone not willing to participate and do not make such people feel like they are jerks. #2 really depends on the people. It has been wrong most of the cases in my experience. People often enjoy food. Food is part of the pleasure for many people!
- dogruck 9y ago
  I enjoy good food too. Certainly depends on the people. For others, food is a tremedous point of stress. But I think all people can enjoy a dinner party, regardless of the food. Two somewhat related cultural touchstones: 1. Truman Capote’s party of the century — the menu hardly seems like a highlight: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_and_White_Ball https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_and_White_Ball > The night's menu, to be served at midnight, consisted of scrambled eggs, sausages, biscuits, pastries, spaghetti and meatballs and chicken hash, a specialty of the Plaza and one of Capote's favorite dishes. 2. Dialog from Glengarry Glen Ross: Ricky: Did you ever take a dump - made you feel like you'd just slept for twelve hours? James Lingk: That I - Ricky: Yes? [James Lingk laughs.] James Lingk: I don't know. Ricky: Or a piss? Great meals fade in reflection. Everything else gains. You know why? 'Cause it's only food. This shit we put on us keeps us going. It's only food. The great fucks you may have had, what do you remember about 'em?

joshuaheard 9y ago

#3. Yes, never cook something for the first time at a large dinner party.

francisofascii 9y ago

#1 is fine, but the guest should be aware the invitation is not exclusive.