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How patronizing. I would happily trade five extra years at the very end of my life in return for fulfillment and enjoyment in the run up. Maybe by some fluke yo
by hyperbovine 9y ago
How patronizing. I would happily trade five extra years at the very end of my life in return for fulfillment and enjoyment in the run up. Maybe by some fluke you have not, but I’ve seen advanced old age up close and personal and in most cases, it ain’t pretty. You have the luxury of being young and (presumably) relatively healthy now. Come talk to me in 40 years when you are immobile, incontinent, arthritic and/or demented. Oh, and most of your friends and siblings are dead. Medical technology has enabled us to live to an age where the quality of life is, in many cases, exceedingly low. Not everyone thinks that is “poignant“.
- dsnuh 9y agoI wasn't intending to be patronizing, but I can take that as a fair criticism. I have indeed experienced it up close and personal. My experience is that there is no magical "shaving X number of years off the end of your life". It doesn't work like that, unfortunately. Come talk to me in 40 years when your daughter is due with her first child in a month and you don't want to live to see that. Maybe we have too different of lives to be able to empathize with each other, but I wouldn't willingly give up those years of my life if I answer the question posed with no caveats (i.e. - well, but what if I lose my mind? What if I become incontinent? Etc.)
- astura 9y agoI'm not sure if I should laugh or cry that you started an incredibly patronizing post off with "I wasn't intending to be patronizing."
- dsnuh 9y agoIf you have a specific suggestion for an edit, let me know. I already posted many times that I was emotionally responding and I should have come at it differently. I don't want the way I presented myself to discount my opinion.