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This is sick. That girl is going to find out one day that he is not her father and she is going to be very fucked up when she realizes her entire life is a lie
by pfisch 9y ago
This is sick. That girl is going to find out one day that he is not her father and she is going to be very fucked up when she realizes her entire life is a lie and she can't ever trust anyone.
I can't believe someone would be willing to do that to someone for $50/hr.
- ZenoArrow 9y agoServices like the ones being described are a symptom of the underlying problems. Should these services exist? Probably not. However, it's more helpful to understand why they do. Why do you think these services exist?
- visarga 9y agoBecause people have high expectations from life but low willingness to accept and adapt. So they'll rent a fake to cut corners.
- ZenoArrow 9y agoHow does that explanation tie up with the example given in the article where a girl was being bullied for not having a father? Is that driven by willingness to cut corners?
- visarga 9y agoIn that case the mother wanted to give the girl a fake father experience, she should have tried to give her a real adoptive father instead. The mother wanted to have the perks of a real father without doing the hard work of entering a relation, like everyone does.
- ZenoArrow 9y agoPerhaps she wanted her girl to stop being bullied, have you considered that possibility?
- tempay 9y ago> The child had a father when she needed him most. It might have been a brief period, and she might know the truth now, but she had a meaningful experience at that time. I find it hard to dismiss the concept completely. There are times when help is needed and perhaps sometimes this deception is better than having no help at all. I feel conflicted.
- pfisch 9y agoI am not dismissing the entire concept, but there is a difference between it being a shared delusion between willing participants and a deception. This service seems like it is primarily used to deceive others, and there are situations where that could be more appropriate like getting a kid into a private school. Most of the examples in that article are immoral uses of the service though.
- danmaz74 9y agoPlaying devil's advocate: how much different is this from adopted children to which adoptive parent's don't tell the truth? Is it mostly how likely is the truth to come out at some point?
- tyingq 9y agoThe difference is when the truth comes out, the adopted child learns that someone cared enough about them to raise them, 24x7. Still crappy, but less crappy than learning your dad was a $200/month actor that had no actual emotional investment in you.
- meric 9y agoI've read the article, it appears for the father role, the actor has some level of emotional investment. He enjoys creating happiness as the father, and feels guilty when he leaves her, and dreams about her even.
- icebraining 9y agoI think the motivation counts. Adopting out of a desire to have a child feels quite different from doing it for money.
- mparramon 9y agoThe adoptive parents genuinely love the child, they are not getting paid to pretend they do.
- fossuser 9y agoI agree - this seems like abuse (especially to do to a child unaware of and not consenting to the lie). I don't understand how someone could rationalize this to themselves as ethical. I hope the interviewer is just lying.