She can do whatever she wants. I have tried very hard to make it clear I am not saying "She is doing it wrong!" But I have handled things different from her. I

She can do whatever she wants. I have tried very hard to make it clear I am not saying "She is doing it wrong!" But I have handled things different from her. I am currently working on a blog post about it. It isn't an easy thing to address. The subtle distinctions I want to make are not very well served by chatty, off the cuff forum comments. Edit: Blog post finished and posted to HN, fwiw.