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It depends. Sometimes people can't, and that's about it. But lately, I have more and more friends that don't want to have children. The girls are in their 35s
by quickben 9y ago
It depends. Sometimes people can't, and that's about it.
But lately, I have more and more friends that don't want to have children.
The girls are in their 35s and guys in 40s, add or take five.
They share and attempt to behave as if they are in their twenties.
They enjoy the easy Toronto life, spend everything they earn, cluster together with others of similar lifestyle, and reinforce each own egos that they are doing it right.
In a way, we live in amazing times where that is possible. But sometimes, life changes, and at that point, not having family to take care of you, is just bad.
So, for the woman in the story, if bad luck put here there that's sad.
If it was her own choice, well, it is harsh, but not forming and helping a family, as your parents did with you, and helped out their parents, is a selfish act, and I guess the price is similarly horrible.
Edit: Clarity. English is such a weird and misinterpreted language.
- DigitalJack 9y agoWow. Children as a retirement plan. And you are calling people who don't do that selfish?
- quickben 9y agoI never wrote retirement plan.
- pkaye 9y agoIn some cultures, children are the retirement plan but usually the help is mutual. The children stay with the parents till marriage, the parents help with major purchases, looking after the kids. At some point the children are self supporting and switch roles. The custom of young adults gaining independence early does have a cost.
- nkrisc 9y agoI'd say raising children to be your caretakers when you're old is far more selfish than simply not having children.
- quickben 9y agoFamily. Not caretakers.
- quickben 9y agoYou know, it's not about that. It's family, plural. Synergy, something more than the parts. My grandma and grandpa showered together in their 70s as to not break bones in the bathroom. This is, I imagine, vastly different from what they did there in their 20s. Each decade brings new challenges and lifestyle. Man is a pack animal. We need our tribe and our pack. Choosing to be alone will reap many temporary benefits. However, it's a gamble, as society, and the very core of what drives us, isn't meant to function in isolation. Life is with other people, and more so with ones that are of your own kind, to face whatever the times may bring. Take this as you will.