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> . A great example of this is the vastly different behavior of the zebra and lion We're not zebra and lions > knew long before we were anywhere near adults t

> . A great example of this is the vastly different behavior of the zebra and lion We're not zebra and lions > knew long before we were anywhere near adults that we wanted families peer pressure is strong in our society family is a motivation to stay alive for many > I knew I wanted to have a bunch of kids. Yeah I though I knew as well, much like I thought I was going to be an astronaut Now I'm a grown up man, in charge of his life, and I know I don't care about a family And it's not the gene's telling me, I still think about having a legacy, a mini me persisting my DNA but I know that it's just a legacy from the past where a man without a family to support wasn't a real man. That's it, education and culture If reproducing was such a strong genetic trait, men on heart would have been billions centuries ago The truth is kids are family support, the more societies get rich, the less people make children It's scientifically proven, poor need kids not for reproduction but for elderly support Poor also make a lot of children because in poor societies kids die more easily

toasterlovin 9y ago
For all of human evolution except the last 50 years, so 6,997 out of the last 7,000 generations, the drive to have sex was synonymous with the drive to have children. Then we invented birth control. Now evolution will select for people who have a desire to have children, separate from their desire to have sex. The idea that complex behavior can be caused by genes in animals, but somehow not in humans is incorrect. People point to culture as if it is some magical force that makes people do things, but the human ability to create and interact with culture is itself the result of genes. After all, zebras and lions don’t have culture. And you missed my point: I grew up in a culture that did not value having children. Having children was considered an after thought, something to be done after you had attended to your career. Growing up, I only knew one family with 4 children. They were considered the weird religious family. Yet I have known since I was 12 or 13 that I wanted to have a large family, even though I grew up in a culture that would look down their noses at a family of 4 or more children. And the argument that poor people have lots of children for financial reasons doesn’t hold up any more. It did when most people were farmers, but the poor in the developed world are no longer farmers and I don’t think there’s any way to argue that children are a net financial benefit to them.
walterstucco 9y ago
> the drive to have sex was synonymous with the drive to have children. that's not true! It's not even the main drive for many apes and monkeys… > The idea that complex behavior can be caused by genes in animals, but somehow not in humans is incorrect But I didn't say that I said we are not those animals and don't live by the same rules The complex behaviour of catching a mouse in a cat is genetic Should humans behave the same when they see a mouse? > I grew up in a culture that did not value having children. Oh that's even more powerful Youth rebellion Do exactly the opposite that your parents and people around you are doing > And the argument that poor people have lots of children for financial reasons doesn’t hold up any more It does now more than ever Now that globalization is taking a lot of poor countries out of poverty Just watch Hans Rosling's talks
- toasterlovin 9y ago
  If the drive to have sex and the tremendous pleasure that results from it are not for making offspring, then how did they evolve?
  - walterstucco 9y ago
    > then how did they evolve? Easy: being on top of the food chain allowed us to evolve our relations beyond having an offspring Those having more satisfactory relations formed groups that we now call families up to the point where sex today is mostly recreational basically pleasurable sex gave us mate choice just like a bird chose the best dancer or a lioness the stronger male pleasure instead of strength in the long run made happiness a goal in our modern societies instead of simply domination we don't have sex just in some period of the year we enjoy sex just like we enjoy eating or having fun For a cat or a dog sex is not pleasurable, it's just a relief from heat, but we call it rape.

toasterlovin 9y ago

For all of human evolution except the last 50 years, so 6,997 out of the last 7,000 generations, the drive to have sex was synonymous with the drive to have children. Then we invented birth control. Now evolution will select for people who have a desire to have children, separate from their desire to have sex. The idea that complex behavior can be caused by genes in animals, but somehow not in humans is incorrect. People point to culture as if it is some magical force that makes people do things, but the human ability to create and interact with culture is itself the result of genes. After all, zebras and lions don’t have culture. And you missed my point: I grew up in a culture that did not value having children. Having children was considered an after thought, something to be done after you had attended to your career. Growing up, I only knew one family with 4 children. They were considered the weird religious family. Yet I have known since I was 12 or 13 that I wanted to have a large family, even though I grew up in a culture that would look down their noses at a family of 4 or more children. And the argument that poor people have lots of children for financial reasons doesn’t hold up any more. It did when most people were farmers, but the poor in the developed world are no longer farmers and I don’t think there’s any way to argue that children are a net financial benefit to them.

walterstucco 9y ago

> the drive to have sex was synonymous with the drive to have children. that's not true! It's not even the main drive for many apes and monkeys… > The idea that complex behavior can be caused by genes in animals, but somehow not in humans is incorrect But I didn't say that I said we are not those animals and don't live by the same rules The complex behaviour of catching a mouse in a cat is genetic Should humans behave the same when they see a mouse? > I grew up in a culture that did not value having children. Oh that's even more powerful Youth rebellion Do exactly the opposite that your parents and people around you are doing > And the argument that poor people have lots of children for financial reasons doesn’t hold up any more It does now more than ever Now that globalization is taking a lot of poor countries out of poverty Just watch Hans Rosling's talks

toasterlovin 9y ago
If the drive to have sex and the tremendous pleasure that results from it are not for making offspring, then how did they evolve?
- walterstucco 9y ago
  > then how did they evolve? Easy: being on top of the food chain allowed us to evolve our relations beyond having an offspring Those having more satisfactory relations formed groups that we now call families up to the point where sex today is mostly recreational basically pleasurable sex gave us mate choice just like a bird chose the best dancer or a lioness the stronger male pleasure instead of strength in the long run made happiness a goal in our modern societies instead of simply domination we don't have sex just in some period of the year we enjoy sex just like we enjoy eating or having fun For a cat or a dog sex is not pleasurable, it's just a relief from heat, but we call it rape.