It's not a hand-wave. It's acknowledging that where you fall in your own cost-benefit analysis is a personal distinction that you're capable of changing. It's a

It's not a hand-wave. It's acknowledging that where you fall in your own cost-benefit analysis is a personal distinction that you're capable of changing. It's a self-development issue, a process that we hopefully continue until we die. For example, some men never approach women our of fear of rejection or lukewarm reception. Any man that wants success with women and dating will have to challenge his self-limiting beliefs. So what if they are reminded of it in an HN comment? Whether that's useless to them only indicates how unwilling they are to change. But it's a prerequisite for the advice in my post. You know, one of the biggest parts of the warmup of an improv class I once took was to stand up and make noise. Like pretend you are a dinosaur. Embarrass yourself. Without fail, it would snap you right into the headspace of what it took to do improv -- being able to look past yourself and perform.