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For boredom that's a good reply, but for fairness it's not so much. Humans are profoundly social creatures and our inherent need for fairness is extremely stro

For boredom that's a good reply, but for fairness it's not so much. Humans are profoundly social creatures and our inherent need for fairness is extremely strong. People are willing to die and kill for fairness alone. A perception of fairness determines how much damage a negative situation causes. It significantly alters our ability to feel empathy in many situations. Often (and this is common with kids due to their inexperience) an unfair situation just seems unfair because of a lack of full understanding of the situation. Explaining it so that they can see it would actually be unfair for them to get their way can be helpful. Attempting to fight their inherent desire for fairness is... either not helpful or harmful. In the best case, they'll rebel against you. In the worst case, they give up and accept learned helplessness.

baldfat 9y ago
I find that the very concept of fairness in life to be a four-letter word that comes from a victim's attitude. When I hear people talk and they use the word fair it really is their way of swearing at life and how they are without the things they need to live successfully. I hardly ever hear it used for defense of others, but of a negative thought about what they were given. So my philosophy of dealing with lack of understanding is to help them to concentrate on facts. To concentrate on doing whats right not whats fair nor easy. :) > In the best case, they'll rebel against you. In the worst case, they give up and accept learned helplessness. Nah my two oldest, foster kids I adopted, both graduated college this May. It wasn't fair when my son, their brother died of bone caner when he was 12. It wasn't fair when my 12 year old's bio dad took a baseball bat to their biological mother's head the same year my son was diagnosed. They learned that they have to work twice as hard because life isn't fair. It isn't fair that my oldest son is pulled over 8-12 times a year for DWB. It isn't fair that kids outside our city get two or three times the educational funding for their public school. The inherent fairness is from humans' selfishness streak usually and doing what is right in the moment is hard. My other kids are also pretty darn tenacious. I kind of see the White Evangelicals (Which I guess I am one of them) feel they are the most discriminated population when it's the opposite. At least my two cents :)

baldfat 9y ago

I find that the very concept of fairness in life to be a four-letter word that comes from a victim's attitude. When I hear people talk and they use the word fair it really is their way of swearing at life and how they are without the things they need to live successfully. I hardly ever hear it used for defense of others, but of a negative thought about what they were given. So my philosophy of dealing with lack of understanding is to help them to concentrate on facts. To concentrate on doing whats right not whats fair nor easy. :) > In the best case, they'll rebel against you. In the worst case, they give up and accept learned helplessness. Nah my two oldest, foster kids I adopted, both graduated college this May. It wasn't fair when my son, their brother died of bone caner when he was 12. It wasn't fair when my 12 year old's bio dad took a baseball bat to their biological mother's head the same year my son was diagnosed. They learned that they have to work twice as hard because life isn't fair. It isn't fair that my oldest son is pulled over 8-12 times a year for DWB. It isn't fair that kids outside our city get two or three times the educational funding for their public school. The inherent fairness is from humans' selfishness streak usually and doing what is right in the moment is hard. My other kids are also pretty darn tenacious. I kind of see the White Evangelicals (Which I guess I am one of them) feel they are the most discriminated population when it's the opposite. At least my two cents :)