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I dare say imho the desire to get laid is a power motivator to get out of this situation... cool chicks like status (and it often come with the finance or at le

I dare say imho the desire to get laid is a power motivator to get out of this situation... cool chicks like status (and it often come with the finance or at least exciting achievements)

jacquesm 16y ago
If you think 'cool chicks that like status' are the ones to desire you still have a lot to learn. I know that sounds paternalistic but really, 'cool chicks that like status' are the ones to avoid if my experience is any guide. Better find a not-so-cool chick that you really love and that really loves you, or a cool one that doesn't care about status.
- harscoat 16y ago
  Sure I tend to agree. Still cool chicks does not mean she only likes expensive cars, cool chicks can be a violonist, a girl with taste, who want you to bring her to the Opera or to Paris on a date. Not-so-cool chicks maybe what you want for yourself (comfort trust etc.) but most of us have a reproductive bias: we also want children and inconsciously you want (for them) good genetic material hence... "cool chicks". Just trying to help, no judgement in this.
  - jacquesm 16y ago
    I think I should rest my case.
    - gexla 16y ago
      I think you forgot about the part where he mentions he is in a country where he can live so cheap that he only has to work 2 - 3 months out of the year. He likely has all the status he needs for the cool chicks in his neighborhood. ;)
      - jacquesm 16y ago
        Thread starter is not the same as topic starter.
- stcredzero 16y ago
  Better find a not-so-cool chick that you really love and that really loves you, or a cool one that doesn't care about status. My experience: for the nerdy guy, the beta-male adherent to an intellectual or aesthetic passion, the biggest payoff is to be found through "contrarian investing." My last girlfriend is very, very odd and an extreme wallflower. She also turned out to be one of the most perceptive, moral, and sensible people I know. As a bonus, underneath her very tasteful and modest wardrobe she's also quite the dreamy waif. When we met, she was 25 and I was her first boyfriend. Another anecdote: my sister living in New York met some guy and dated him for a couple of years. Not only did he turn out to be one of the nicest, level-headed guys I know, but he would be a good casting choice for Clark Kent. He had never had a girlfriend before. My sister met him when he was 27. Another anecdote: my girlfriend's friend. She's a complete head-turner with excellent taste in clothes, but had never dated anyone until her mid 20's either. Just as in tech, there are many whose decision-mechanism is to follow the herd. Their discernment is clouded by fear of being wrong and disconnected from true discernment. Be the one who hacks social reality for the unnoticed treasure. (P.S. In response to the inevitable skepticism: there are lots of things in social reality that distort perceptions. Racism is still a pretty powerful one here in the states.)

I dare say imho the desire to get laid is a power motivator to get out of this situation... cool chicks like status (and it often come with the finance or at least exciting achievements)

jacquesm 16y ago

If you think 'cool chicks that like status' are the ones to desire you still have a lot to learn. I know that sounds paternalistic but really, 'cool chicks that like status' are the ones to avoid if my experience is any guide. Better find a not-so-cool chick that you really love and that really loves you, or a cool one that doesn't care about status.

harscoat 16y ago
Sure I tend to agree. Still cool chicks does not mean she only likes expensive cars, cool chicks can be a violonist, a girl with taste, who want you to bring her to the Opera or to Paris on a date. Not-so-cool chicks maybe what you want for yourself (comfort trust etc.) but most of us have a reproductive bias: we also want children and inconsciously you want (for them) good genetic material hence... "cool chicks". Just trying to help, no judgement in this.
- jacquesm 16y ago
  I think I should rest my case.
  - gexla 16y ago
    I think you forgot about the part where he mentions he is in a country where he can live so cheap that he only has to work 2 - 3 months out of the year. He likely has all the status he needs for the cool chicks in his neighborhood. ;)
    - jacquesm 16y ago
      Thread starter is not the same as topic starter.
stcredzero 16y ago
Better find a not-so-cool chick that you really love and that really loves you, or a cool one that doesn't care about status. My experience: for the nerdy guy, the beta-male adherent to an intellectual or aesthetic passion, the biggest payoff is to be found through "contrarian investing." My last girlfriend is very, very odd and an extreme wallflower. She also turned out to be one of the most perceptive, moral, and sensible people I know. As a bonus, underneath her very tasteful and modest wardrobe she's also quite the dreamy waif. When we met, she was 25 and I was her first boyfriend. Another anecdote: my sister living in New York met some guy and dated him for a couple of years. Not only did he turn out to be one of the nicest, level-headed guys I know, but he would be a good casting choice for Clark Kent. He had never had a girlfriend before. My sister met him when he was 27. Another anecdote: my girlfriend's friend. She's a complete head-turner with excellent taste in clothes, but had never dated anyone until her mid 20's either. Just as in tech, there are many whose decision-mechanism is to follow the herd. Their discernment is clouded by fear of being wrong and disconnected from true discernment. Be the one who hacks social reality for the unnoticed treasure. (P.S. In response to the inevitable skepticism: there are lots of things in social reality that distort perceptions. Racism is still a pretty powerful one here in the states.)