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Really? Half the population has had to continuously, thanklessly, and systemically lug around the emotional weight of the other half for centuries, and you cons

Really? Half the population has had to continuously, thanklessly, and systemically lug around the emotional weight of the other half for centuries, and you consider this a distraction? I'd say this issue is at the very core of gender politics. The more we're aware of it, the happier we'll be in our relationships and our lives. I've learned it's a massive blind spot in my own emotional intelligence and I'm thankful my eyes have been opened. Allow yourself to become a better person. https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

Aloha 9y ago
Your viewpoint is depressingly conformist, assumptive and heteronormative. Modern feminism isn't doing enough to break down gender roles, it instead bemoans them, and in doing so inadvertently reinforces them - we should be working harder to break down gender roles, instead of attacking the people who are just following the path society has informed them is the path they're supposed to take. Modern feminism also seems to mostly assume that only women are injured by these societal norms, which I believe is demonstrably untrue. It's also harmful to ascribe to gender what we ought to ascribe to individuals not communicating adequately about their needs/wants/hopes, or just individuals being individuals.
andonisus 9y ago
I'm not sure I understand the problem... It seems that, according to this line of thinking women take this 'emotional labor' upon themselves, innately, while men do not. That is, men have not asked women to do this -- women naturally do it. Why, then, should the burden be placed upon the man to alleviate this self-infliction of the woman? Why shouldn't the woman try to approach this issue more like the man? Or perhaps they should meet halfway. Either way, why is it expected that it is an issue that men need to address and adapt and not the other way around?

Aloha 9y ago

Your viewpoint is depressingly conformist, assumptive and heteronormative. Modern feminism isn't doing enough to break down gender roles, it instead bemoans them, and in doing so inadvertently reinforces them - we should be working harder to break down gender roles, instead of attacking the people who are just following the path society has informed them is the path they're supposed to take. Modern feminism also seems to mostly assume that only women are injured by these societal norms, which I believe is demonstrably untrue. It's also harmful to ascribe to gender what we ought to ascribe to individuals not communicating adequately about their needs/wants/hopes, or just individuals being individuals.

andonisus 9y ago

I'm not sure I understand the problem... It seems that, according to this line of thinking women take this 'emotional labor' upon themselves, innately, while men do not. That is, men have not asked women to do this -- women naturally do it. Why, then, should the burden be placed upon the man to alleviate this self-infliction of the woman? Why shouldn't the woman try to approach this issue more like the man? Or perhaps they should meet halfway. Either way, why is it expected that it is an issue that men need to address and adapt and not the other way around?