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> After all, if your spouse is your best friend, then whom do you complain to your spouse about? Absolutely no one. I've been married for 11 years. My wife i
by unit91 9y ago
> After all, if your spouse is your best friend, then whom do you complain to your spouse about?
Absolutely no one. I've been married for 11 years. My wife isn't perfect of course, but she's still pretty fantastic. She is my best friend, for which I'm thankful. I don't and won't gossip about her.
As a second- or third- hand observer, I can't count the number of times I've heard someone gripe about their spouse and felt sorry for them. Marriage, and relationships generally, are so much richer when you can either get over a minor injury without even mentioning it, or respectfully discuss a more serious one. I know it isn't "cool" to quote scripture around here but the Bible says "Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense." Amen.
- Sacho 9y ago> After all, if your spouse is your best friend, then whom do you complain to your spouse about? I agree with you, with just one small tweak: if your spouse is your best friend, you should complain to your spouse about her. That's in fact what separates a "real friend" from an acquaintance for me - the presumption that my friend really cares about me and is willing to modify their behavior to improve my happiness, within limits.
- aesclepius 9y agoWise words, thanks for this thread.
- emodendroket 9y agoI completely agree. Griping about every slight your wife makes against you is a good way to make yourself more resentful. Recounting the offense deepens the tracks in your mind the same way a carriage going over the same path several times would.
- coderdude 9y agoAbsolutely. You and your wife should present a unified front. Solid advice. The wives are all complaining to each other, though. And then those women tell whoever they're dating or married to. So the only people who know about your personal problems are you, your wife, her friends, and the people her friends are with. And that's the best you can hope for while maintaining your own, perfect, unified front. Amen. Wait, I forgot about family!
- asp_hornet 9y agoI'm glad this was the top comment. I'm far from perfect myself, i would be upset if my wife did this behind my back.