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My wife was my best friend when we got married over twenty years ago, and that has only ripened and deepened since then. She is the person I want to share the j
by kbutler 9y ago
My wife was my best friend when we got married over twenty years ago, and that has only ripened and deepened since then. She is the person I want to share the joys and rough times with. When I see something beautiful, I want to share it with her. When I have a rough day, or week, I want to talk it over with her. We're raising our children together, planning for our retirement together, and enjoying the days and years as they come.
And I hope the author didn't really mean the "with whom do you complain about your spouse" line. If people respected and worked with their spouses instead of complaining about them to other people, there'd be a lot fewer failed marriages.
- pcunite 9y agoThat's great to hear. Ever read the books *The Five Love Languages" or even "His Needs, Her Needs". They were very helpful to me.
- kbutler 9y agoFive love languages, yes, I'll have to take a look at his/her. Men are from mars, women are from Venus was helpful, and what wives wish men knew about women - learning that sometimes you just need to listen (always need to listen, sometimes that's all she needs me to do), and recognizing that it's ok to need space sometimes, etc.
- pcunite 9y agoYeah, I was always trying to "fix" it within a few minutes of hearing her statements. Allowing her to speak it out, develop images in her mind, listening, and then after all that, I don't offer the solution! It is a different way of "communication".
- m4x 9y agoThe author actually didn't say "with whom do you complain about your spouse", they said "whom do you complain to your spouse about?", which means something totally different.
- kbutler 9y agoYou are quite right. I'm not sure how I misread that (twice!). But do people complain about best friends to spouses? I unfortunately know of many people who complain about spouses to friends.