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Let's go even more simple: Just be a decent human being What you do and don't do should not be tied entirely to work relation situations.
by TarpitCarnivore 9y ago
Let's go even more simple: Just be a decent human being
What you do and don't do should not be tied entirely to work relation situations.
- zaroth 9y agoDecent human beings make unwanted sexual advances all the fucking time. We can't read each other's minds after all. This is why we go to the trouble of defining a "sexual harassment" standard in the workplace, which holds coworkers to a higher standard of care than what is expected outside of the workplace. Obviously we are not supposed to live our lives interacting with every other human purely professionally.
- countryslicker 9y agoWow. Mind reading is not required. You've watched too many movies that go from strangers to married with children in 90 minutes. How about spending weeks, months, and even years building a relationship? Talking->dating->holding hands->... Spend more than 5 minutes on each stage. I know it seems old-fashioned, but it can really reduce the degree of offense when you misjudge the stage of a relationship.
- zaroth 9y agoVery condescending reply and ad hominem isn't necessary, but I think is reflective of the strength of the argument. Dating is messy, complicated business. People get hurt. There is no magic ritual or length of time that will prevent that. But I think the ivory tower condescension that if only men would follow this or that prescriptive approach is extremely damaging and even perpetuates the problem.
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- SAI_Peregrinus 9y agoHarassment is a pattern of undesired behavior. One advance is OK, but if you're turned down you DO NOT MAKE ANOTHER to that person. Just accept it and move on. Really that's it. It applies everywhere. It applies to non-sexual harassment as well.