I read his rant, and I love him, but that was a terribly written, poorly thought out and even more poorly researched "rant." That is not writing about it at len

I read his rant, and I love him, but that was a terribly written, poorly thought out and even more poorly researched "rant." That is not writing about it at length, which implies serious and long-term study... just writing lengthy, which implies volume. Many women - and lots of men, too - do this thing where they attempt to control the world by being gentle, sweet and pathetic (in the sense of evoking emotions). By trying to be appealing so things come to them. It's a nicer way of control, but it is still about control. It's emotionally dishonest. And when it doesn't work, they go boo-hoo. So do the men who do the same thing. Whenever you see a "nice guy" who refuses to ask the object of his affections out, and instead plays friend and hopes she'll wake up one day, that's this behavior at work. I don't think women are socialized to be this way any more than men are -- but men are better at ignoring socialization and doing extreme things (both good and bad) in the pursuit of their goals.