I suspect you don't know what you want to be because you've been hanging around American computer programmers too long. You're simply doing what they do. You

I suspect you don't know what you want to be because you've been hanging around American computer programmers too long. You're simply doing what they do. You need to go Traveling for a while. Book yourself a ticket to Thailand this winter. 2 months return, starting in early December. Book it today and it will run you $800 from the west coast. You'll need another $2k in savings to handle expenses for a couple months in SE Asia. Why? Because you need to meet some Europeans and Australians, and that's where they'll be this winter. You'll meet tons of people your age and younger who are so much more squared away and confident in what they're doing than you that you'll be blown away. Make friends with these people, figure out how they do what they do with so much less (because I guarantee you none of them will be pulling in $60k/year and they're doing trips like this every year.) Use this trip to build the pattern for what you want yourself to be like from here on out. Start being that guy while you're on the road and nobody is around to see the transition. Then come back to your job and simply continue being that guy. It's tough to change who you are while people are watching, but it's somehow acceptable to come back from a long trip and be "changed". Take advantage of that little social hack.