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I dumped my day-job like a stage 5 clinger. The results? Amazing

15 points by CodeLikeAGirl 9y ago

romanovcode 9y ago
What is a stage 5 clinger?
- bitwize 9y ago
  An obsessive stalker. I'm not up on my Millennial speak, but the 90s term for this was "psycho hose beast".
- pg_is_a_butt 9y ago
  Bra talk for men who don't leave them alone, even though they never ask them to leave. Bitches be trippin.
- Consultant32452 9y ago
  It's a reference from the movie "Wedding Crashers." It basically means a person who doesn't understand that the person they're into isn't into them. They are border-line stalker/clingy.
- alexc05 9y ago
  I expect it's either a scatological reference or something to do with an eager dating partner who is unrequited.
- kiraleighleigh 9y ago
  OP Here. Like the others said, it's an obsessive stalker. ;)
aqp_rune_scimmy 9y ago
Did we really need yet another article about this? We get it, being in a box for 8 hour sucks.
- whamlastxmas 9y ago
  To be fair, it's more about advice on how to manage self employment.
- kiraleighleigh 9y ago
  OP here. I mean, 'needing' is subjective. I just like writing stuff...what would you, specifically, want to read about? I might be working on an article now about it, to be honest (hah).
bitwize 9y ago
I'm sure if you're young, pretty, and can hold forth effusively on the framework du jour, you "magically" get invites to host webinars all the time. But when you're old and jaded like me and have seen fads come and go -- history spitting rhymes like Eminem -- you can't muster that oh-so-marketable enthusiasm for what's hot this month, and as a freelancer you may find yourself struggling for scraps. In that context, the corporate nine-to-five starts not looking so bad. Especially if you have other mouths to feed.
- mercer 9y ago
  I wouldn't mind some elaboration. I'm early-thirties and find myself dwelling on these issues regularly. I feel I'm at a crossroads where on the one hand I can still go for those 'hot' things with enough excitement, but on the other hand find myself tired of feeling like I'm just following trends and reinventing the wheel, instead of actually getting better at my craft, much as the word makes me feel self-conscious.
  - bitwize 9y ago
    Technical experience and expertise is no longer enough to be successful in the software business. As a developer you are only one source of technical expertise, competing with other sources, including offshore workers and libraries on GitHub and npm. To make it you have to have well-cultivated soft skills and be exactly what your client is looking for. This is increasingly true of nine-to-fivers -- for whom an entry-level job requires at least three years' experience in whatever framework the company is using as well as "cultural fit" (a proxy for who knows what kind of discrimination) -- but it's still especially true of freelancers. If you're not exactly what your client needs, you're out. And if you're in the Valley startup scene, where every new JavaScript framework has apocalyptic implications and no one over thirty is to be trusted per the words of God-Emperor Zuckerberg, then what your clients need is for you to be young, hip, and smart -- but not wise to the fact that the latest stuff is yesterday's advancements, warmed over and retooled to hide the deficiencies in today's tech. Or at least you can't let them know you're wise. Them being the people with the money. If you want to make it in this world, fuck your craft. Crafts are for evenings and weekends. Work on your hustle instead. Look up some hot new framework and build a thing in it, then prepare some slides and give a talk -- to no one, in your room -- about what you learned so the words roll off easy when you're trying to impress somebody at your local meetup. Stock up on Just For Men so you can still pass for 28. If you want to be where the true advances in the field are, go back to college and get a Ph.D. or at least a master's because blockchain, AI, machine learning -- these require more math than the average baccalaureate college grad has been prepared with. (But mind your love life while there; if you fuck the wrong girl you are automatically assumed to have raped her per Title IX regulations.) And robotics and IoT require deep engineering backgrounds. If making it in Hollywood means sucking Harvey Weinstein's dick, then you know what you've gotta do. Get on your knees, or walk out the door and do something else. It's not fair and it's not just, but this is the world we live in.

15 points by CodeLikeAGirl 9y ago

romanovcode 9y ago

What is a stage 5 clinger?

bitwize 9y ago
An obsessive stalker. I'm not up on my Millennial speak, but the 90s term for this was "psycho hose beast".
pg_is_a_butt 9y ago
Bra talk for men who don't leave them alone, even though they never ask them to leave. Bitches be trippin.
Consultant32452 9y ago
It's a reference from the movie "Wedding Crashers." It basically means a person who doesn't understand that the person they're into isn't into them. They are border-line stalker/clingy.
alexc05 9y ago
I expect it's either a scatological reference or something to do with an eager dating partner who is unrequited.
kiraleighleigh 9y ago
OP Here. Like the others said, it's an obsessive stalker. ;)

aqp_rune_scimmy 9y ago

Did we really need yet another article about this? We get it, being in a box for 8 hour sucks.

whamlastxmas 9y ago
To be fair, it's more about advice on how to manage self employment.
kiraleighleigh 9y ago
OP here. I mean, 'needing' is subjective. I just like writing stuff...what would you, specifically, want to read about? I might be working on an article now about it, to be honest (hah).

bitwize 9y ago

I'm sure if you're young, pretty, and can hold forth effusively on the framework du jour, you "magically" get invites to host webinars all the time. But when you're old and jaded like me and have seen fads come and go -- history spitting rhymes like Eminem -- you can't muster that oh-so-marketable enthusiasm for what's hot this month, and as a freelancer you may find yourself struggling for scraps. In that context, the corporate nine-to-five starts not looking so bad. Especially if you have other mouths to feed.

mercer 9y ago
I wouldn't mind some elaboration. I'm early-thirties and find myself dwelling on these issues regularly. I feel I'm at a crossroads where on the one hand I can still go for those 'hot' things with enough excitement, but on the other hand find myself tired of feeling like I'm just following trends and reinventing the wheel, instead of actually getting better at my craft, much as the word makes me feel self-conscious.
- bitwize 9y ago
  Technical experience and expertise is no longer enough to be successful in the software business. As a developer you are only one source of technical expertise, competing with other sources, including offshore workers and libraries on GitHub and npm. To make it you have to have well-cultivated soft skills and be exactly what your client is looking for. This is increasingly true of nine-to-fivers -- for whom an entry-level job requires at least three years' experience in whatever framework the company is using as well as "cultural fit" (a proxy for who knows what kind of discrimination) -- but it's still especially true of freelancers. If you're not exactly what your client needs, you're out. And if you're in the Valley startup scene, where every new JavaScript framework has apocalyptic implications and no one over thirty is to be trusted per the words of God-Emperor Zuckerberg, then what your clients need is for you to be young, hip, and smart -- but not wise to the fact that the latest stuff is yesterday's advancements, warmed over and retooled to hide the deficiencies in today's tech. Or at least you can't let them know you're wise. Them being the people with the money. If you want to make it in this world, fuck your craft. Crafts are for evenings and weekends. Work on your hustle instead. Look up some hot new framework and build a thing in it, then prepare some slides and give a talk -- to no one, in your room -- about what you learned so the words roll off easy when you're trying to impress somebody at your local meetup. Stock up on Just For Men so you can still pass for 28. If you want to be where the true advances in the field are, go back to college and get a Ph.D. or at least a master's because blockchain, AI, machine learning -- these require more math than the average baccalaureate college grad has been prepared with. (But mind your love life while there; if you fuck the wrong girl you are automatically assumed to have raped her per Title IX regulations.) And robotics and IoT require deep engineering backgrounds. If making it in Hollywood means sucking Harvey Weinstein's dick, then you know what you've gotta do. Get on your knees, or walk out the door and do something else. It's not fair and it's not just, but this is the world we live in.