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The letter from the kid is full of manipulations. "Seven straight houses of cognitive exercises"? Is that supposed to be code for SCHOOL? Sorry, maybe the pare

by erdojo 9y ago

The letter from the kid is full of manipulations. "Seven straight houses of cognitive exercises"? Is that supposed to be code for SCHOOL? Sorry, maybe the parents are putting too much stress on him for the test, but otherwise do your chores and homework before you play video games (which is what he really wants the hour for).

justinjlynn 9y ago
Yes, what do you think school is? It's not easy, nor is it a social holiday. Chores are fine, but, if your child can manage their time don't handicap them with micromanagement. If you want respect, you have to grant it where it is deserving.
- erdojo 9y ago
  First world problems.
Thriptic 9y ago
If someone told me I had to clock a 8 hour day, come home and do several hours more work, and then do a bunch of menial labor five days a week I would be annoyed too. It is totally reasonable for someone to be irked when they are given no autonomy at any point during a day.
- JustSomeNobody 9y ago
  Don’t be a parent. :) You have to cook, wash dishes, wash clothes, make sure everyone gets baths, etc, etc. Help with homework, etc. A whole bunch of post 8 hour work day labor.
  - cududa 9y ago
    Dude. Just because your life requires an arduous slog through each day doesn't mean you need to project that onto your kids.
  - coss 9y ago
    He could be a parent and hire help for all that.
  - selectodude 9y ago
    Yeah, but you chose that.
    - benchaney 9y ago
      This is a huge part of the problem IMO. Plenty of people have busy schedules, but they also have autonomy, and they get to make decisions about what is important to them and what isn't. Kids have none of that.
- erdojo 9y ago
  School is maybe 3-4 periods of "cognitive load" with one period of PE and another that's something more fun, plus lunch, plus breaks. I'm not opposed to giving the kid quiet time each night, but he can finish his homework and do his chores beforehand.

by erdojo 9y ago

justinjlynn 9y ago

Yes, what do you think school is? It's not easy, nor is it a social holiday. Chores are fine, but, if your child can manage their time don't handicap them with micromanagement. If you want respect, you have to grant it where it is deserving.

erdojo 9y ago
First world problems.

Thriptic 9y ago

If someone told me I had to clock a 8 hour day, come home and do several hours more work, and then do a bunch of menial labor five days a week I would be annoyed too. It is totally reasonable for someone to be irked when they are given no autonomy at any point during a day.

JustSomeNobody 9y ago
Don’t be a parent. :) You have to cook, wash dishes, wash clothes, make sure everyone gets baths, etc, etc. Help with homework, etc. A whole bunch of post 8 hour work day labor.
- cududa 9y ago
  Dude. Just because your life requires an arduous slog through each day doesn't mean you need to project that onto your kids.
- coss 9y ago
  He could be a parent and hire help for all that.
- selectodude 9y ago
  Yeah, but you chose that.
  - benchaney 9y ago
    This is a huge part of the problem IMO. Plenty of people have busy schedules, but they also have autonomy, and they get to make decisions about what is important to them and what isn't. Kids have none of that.
erdojo 9y ago
School is maybe 3-4 periods of "cognitive load" with one period of PE and another that's something more fun, plus lunch, plus breaks. I'm not opposed to giving the kid quiet time each night, but he can finish his homework and do his chores beforehand.