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Do you have any friends? Modern careers leave people estranged from their families and without any real friends. Although programmers like to believe their Asp
by starkfist 16y ago
Do you have any friends?
Modern careers leave people estranged from their families and without any real friends. Although programmers like to believe their Asperger's syndrome or Randian individualism means they don't need a social or family life, humans are social animals. Not having anyone around who cares about you leaves people anxious and depressed. When you are anxious and depressed it leads to ADHD, hypochondria, and a sense of helplessness. The fact that you are asking this question anonymously on an internet forum leads me to believe your social life probably isn't as good as it could be.
In contrast, when people are surrounded by loved ones all the time generally they have little anxiety or depression even if they have serious physical health problems.
- lutorm 16y agoI second this! The times in my life when I've felt the most productive and engaged, I've been part of a tight group with similar goals and interests. Don't underestimate the degree to which people are fueled by outside interactions, not for external rewards but simply because of the shared momentum. The lack of such a peer group one of the things I've found the hardest after moving to the US, perhaps because the academic moving around makes it hard to build long-term friendships, and quite likely also because I'm not very good at it.
- nhnifong 16y agoJoin a local club and do some volunteer work. I suggest Habitat for Humanity, (they build houses by hand for the poor)