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> She explained that the findings might come down to the “McDonaldisation” of dating that Tinder perpetuates, given that we expect speedy and satisfying results

> She explained that the findings might come down to the “McDonaldisation” of dating that Tinder perpetuates, given that we expect speedy and satisfying results like we would at a fast food restaurant. This is something I've long suspected. I read these stories of people going in 100+ dates in three months or whatever, and it's clear that people are expecting too much from a single interaction with someone. Movies and TV shows have definitely given people the idea that deep connections can be formed in 60 to 120 minutes. I'd also like to see statistics on the distribution of matches and likes on dating apps. I suspect 90%+ of likes are received by <1% of people.

aaron-lebo 9y ago
The other aspect of that is not only is it hard to make a connection that fast, but if you've got another dozen attractive options, why bother stretching that out into multiple dates? It's lots of window shopping. Maybe we have too many options?
- Jyaif 9y ago
  Hence apps like "ONCE" where you have only one match per day.
- kungito 9y ago
  I suppose the problem is that we are more aware of all the options so it's harder to settle. In a village you have 3-4 choices so not settling means getting your favorite out of 4. Now you watch movies and porn with most beautiful and charming people and they are displayed in their perfectly engineered best moment and then you have to go back to not being able to "have" them
coffee9 9y ago
https://twitter.com/SteveStuWill/status/903902395352080385 https://twitter.com/SteveStuWill/status/903902395352080385 was making the rounds recently, which claimed it was the top 20%, but there's so many factors like twice as many men using Tinder, and men are 6x more likely to +like anyone, I can't really make sense of it.
- baron816 9y ago
  Yes, this is exactly what I’ve been thinking. And this is where so many in the media have gotten the notion that Tinder makes it easy for guys to sleep around. Tinder makes it easy for great looking, highly successful guys to sleep around. Everyone else, not so much. All these women are chasing after the elite men, and wonder why they can’t get them to stick.

aaron-lebo 9y ago

The other aspect of that is not only is it hard to make a connection that fast, but if you've got another dozen attractive options, why bother stretching that out into multiple dates? It's lots of window shopping. Maybe we have too many options?

Jyaif 9y ago
Hence apps like "ONCE" where you have only one match per day.
kungito 9y ago
I suppose the problem is that we are more aware of all the options so it's harder to settle. In a village you have 3-4 choices so not settling means getting your favorite out of 4. Now you watch movies and porn with most beautiful and charming people and they are displayed in their perfectly engineered best moment and then you have to go back to not being able to "have" them

coffee9 9y ago

https://twitter.com/SteveStuWill/status/903902395352080385 https://twitter.com/SteveStuWill/status/903902395352080385 was making the rounds recently, which claimed it was the top 20%, but there's so many factors like twice as many men using Tinder, and men are 6x more likely to +like anyone, I can't really make sense of it.

baron816 9y ago
Yes, this is exactly what I’ve been thinking. And this is where so many in the media have gotten the notion that Tinder makes it easy for guys to sleep around. Tinder makes it easy for great looking, highly successful guys to sleep around. Everyone else, not so much. All these women are chasing after the elite men, and wonder why they can’t get them to stick.