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This depends, if you flat refuse all alcohol I can see how this would come across strange at social events. People that are drinking want everyone else in their
by robryan 16y ago
This depends, if you flat refuse all alcohol I can see how this would come across strange at social events. People that are drinking want everyone else in their presence to be loosened up a little as well. I would imagine the reaction would be different between I don't drink and I'm only having a couple.
What is more interesting would be if your not drinking but are still relaxed and are lively with other people present, whether you seem strange because your not drinking or whether it's got to do with your interactions due to not drinking.
I personally don't see anything wrong with not drinking unless your acting condescending to those that have had a few.
- greendestiny 16y agoI think you're onto to something there. People probably have good reasons to try and avoid mismatches in levels of drinking at an event. Drinking breaks down social barriers but in doing so it makes people vulnerable. Maybe if you can sufficiently signal your commitment to the social situation without drinking you'd do better - ie make a bit of a fool of yourself to show your uninhibited state. As an experiment perhaps next party the grandparent commenter goes to he can wear a ridiculous Hawaiian shirt or something.
- byw 16y agoI can see how it could put the drinker in a vulnerable position. Though what's interesting is when I am around drunk people, my own inhibition naturally drops even without drinking.
- klipt 16y agoI don't drink but have no problem singing along with drunk friends. Maybe it was those improv classes... It probably helps that said friends are mature adults who don't use drunkenness as an excuse for antisocial stupidity.