I draw some connections between Adams' model - we're either a Bully, Pushover, or Negotiator - and a framework I've seen that separates most people into either

I draw some connections between Adams' model - we're either a Bully, Pushover, or Negotiator - and a framework I've seen that separates most people into either Persecutor, Victim, or Rescuer. Using that connection, I see two important observations. First, while we may have a tendency towards one over the others, we can play multiple roles - someone might be a Bully / Persecutor at work, and a Pushover / Victim at home with their spouse. Second, you don't have to play these roles, and in fact playing any of these roles will ultimately make you unhappy because they are each place you in a situation where your feelings are at the effect of other people. The Bully needs other people to persecute; the Pushover takes their power by playing the victim, again requiring other people; and the Negotiator is the most arrogant of the three because they see themselves as having the solution to any dispute, and value themselves by rescuing others. Much better to focus on yourself and being in control of your own happiness, than to play any role that depends on other people.