I think it's a personal issue, and that your point of view is just as valid too! Marriage, for us, was a big deal. That commitment was heavy at the time. Break

I think it's a personal issue, and that your point of view is just as valid too! Marriage, for us, was a big deal. That commitment was heavy at the time. Breaking up with a GF, even one you lived with for years, is not too terrible (depending on local laws) outside of the emotional turmoil. Where we are, divorce is a nightmare of legal issues, time, money, and the emotional turmoil, let alone those with kiddos. Ending a marriage is a lot of hard work in a 'raw' time, and that weighed heavily on us both. I guess we were scared of that 'level' of love. That said, I am so glad we did it and want to kick my younger self for waiting so long. She helped me through all the weight of marriage, the wedding, and even today we lift each other. Marriage, like all things, takes practice to be good at, and a lot of work. But I wouldn't want anyone else to shoulder the loads with. For us, this weight has strengthened our backs. I know it's not for everyone, and that is OK! Y'all do y'allselves! Be happy and love the way you need to love! Be careful on separating 'want' and 'need' though. For myself, I have no idea why I didn't do it sooner, knowing what I know now. I guess I was unsure of the amount of responsibility I could handle. With her by my side, there is no amount of anything I cannot get through.