I don't understand, if I'm honest. Chess also has an ELO system, and no one would claim that it creates emotional dependency, even if it controls who you match

I don't understand, if I'm honest. Chess also has an ELO system, and no one would claim that it creates emotional dependency, even if it controls who you match with. I understand that dating is more emotionally intense, but why is ELO particularly a problem in that context?