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Haha, well not too sure. For one, Facebook isn’t a human connection, it’s really not. You’re not really friends with someone you haven’t spoken to in 5 years.

Haha, well not too sure. For one, Facebook isn’t a human connection, it’s really not. You’re not really friends with someone you haven’t spoken to in 5 years. On the other hand, we’ve been attached to human connections since the begging of civilization. Not sold that would end in 10 years time.

pjc50 9y ago
Before Facebook, there was an entire genre of "friends reunited" stories, where people had lost contact with someone they used to be close to and recovered it after decades. That was back in the old pre-connection days where you could just lose someone's contact details, or they could move and if they didn't update you (or you were both moving) that was it forever. Now things are very different. You never have to wonder what's happening to those people you knew at school, or wait for the reunion.
- coldtea 9y ago
  >Before Facebook, there was an entire genre of "friends reunited" stories, where people had lost contact with someone they used to be close to and recovered it after decades. Those were more "once friends, then estranged/lost touch for decades on end, meet again, might or might not keep contact" stories than "friends re-united" stories.
zimpenfish 9y ago
> For one, Facebook isn’t a human connection, it’s really not. It is, it really is. > You’re not really friends with someone you haven’t spoken to in 5 years. Well, yeah, that's a truism.
- nextlevelwizard 9y ago
  >It is, it really is. Maybe we have extremely different feeds, but I mostly just see junk updates like: "walking the dogs", "just had breakfast", "just got home from work", "yay friday", "look we are at bar/party/gathering", "argh! mondays suck" Then there are some random quiz/ad/lottery things. And random pictures of people's kids/pets. I get much more human interaction out of IRC and Discord, places where you can actually talk and not just like and comment.
  - zimpenfish 9y ago
    > I mostly just see junk updates See, if you're calling things like those "junk updates", I'd venture the problem is on your end. > Then there are some random quiz/ad/lottery things. Those I will agree do not count as human connections. > places where you can actually talk and not just like and comment. How is commenting not "talking"? Unless you're restricting "talk" to solely mean "synchronous discussion" which is madness.
    - nextlevelwizard 9y ago
      >See, if you're calling things like those "junk updates", I'd venture the problem is on your end. There is just no value in these updates. Who cares you just ate a plate of casserole at home? What value is in griping over Mondays? I'm always globbed in with "millenials", but I feel anything but one. I see no value in any of the social media sites everyone seems to use. Maybe just because I don't know how to use them, but in the past I've tried in vein updating them, but I never have anything meaningful to say and I am definitely not going start posting pictures of the shit I eat.
      - zimpenfish 9y ago
        > Who cares you just ate a plate of casserole at home? Ok, you don't care but you are not the world. In my experience, people ask what was in it, what recipe you used, how you cooked it. > What value is in griping over Mondays? Again, in my experience, it leads to a sharing of experiences.
    - coldtea 9y ago
      >See, if you're calling things like those "junk updates", I'd venture the problem is on your end. And I and the parent would venture the problem is in your end. >How is commenting not "talking"? Unless you're restricting "talk" to solely mean "synchronous discussion" which is madness. Talking implies empathy, actually listening to the other, back and forth, etc. Merely commenting on some crappy post about ones vacations or food or pet or some political slogan and such (which is what it usually is) with at best 2-3 one sentence reply reactions is not exactly it, or it's a very low and basic form of it.

pjc50 9y ago

Before Facebook, there was an entire genre of "friends reunited" stories, where people had lost contact with someone they used to be close to and recovered it after decades. That was back in the old pre-connection days where you could just lose someone's contact details, or they could move and if they didn't update you (or you were both moving) that was it forever. Now things are very different. You never have to wonder what's happening to those people you knew at school, or wait for the reunion.

coldtea 9y ago
>Before Facebook, there was an entire genre of "friends reunited" stories, where people had lost contact with someone they used to be close to and recovered it after decades. Those were more "once friends, then estranged/lost touch for decades on end, meet again, might or might not keep contact" stories than "friends re-united" stories.

zimpenfish 9y ago

> For one, Facebook isn’t a human connection, it’s really not. It is, it really is. > You’re not really friends with someone you haven’t spoken to in 5 years. Well, yeah, that's a truism.

nextlevelwizard 9y ago
>It is, it really is. Maybe we have extremely different feeds, but I mostly just see junk updates like: "walking the dogs", "just had breakfast", "just got home from work", "yay friday", "look we are at bar/party/gathering", "argh! mondays suck" Then there are some random quiz/ad/lottery things. And random pictures of people's kids/pets. I get much more human interaction out of IRC and Discord, places where you can actually talk and not just like and comment.
- zimpenfish 9y ago
  > I mostly just see junk updates See, if you're calling things like those "junk updates", I'd venture the problem is on your end. > Then there are some random quiz/ad/lottery things. Those I will agree do not count as human connections. > places where you can actually talk and not just like and comment. How is commenting not "talking"? Unless you're restricting "talk" to solely mean "synchronous discussion" which is madness.
  - nextlevelwizard 9y ago
    >See, if you're calling things like those "junk updates", I'd venture the problem is on your end. There is just no value in these updates. Who cares you just ate a plate of casserole at home? What value is in griping over Mondays? I'm always globbed in with "millenials", but I feel anything but one. I see no value in any of the social media sites everyone seems to use. Maybe just because I don't know how to use them, but in the past I've tried in vein updating them, but I never have anything meaningful to say and I am definitely not going start posting pictures of the shit I eat.
    - zimpenfish 9y ago
      > Who cares you just ate a plate of casserole at home? Ok, you don't care but you are not the world. In my experience, people ask what was in it, what recipe you used, how you cooked it. > What value is in griping over Mondays? Again, in my experience, it leads to a sharing of experiences.
  - coldtea 9y ago
    >See, if you're calling things like those "junk updates", I'd venture the problem is on your end. And I and the parent would venture the problem is in your end. >How is commenting not "talking"? Unless you're restricting "talk" to solely mean "synchronous discussion" which is madness. Talking implies empathy, actually listening to the other, back and forth, etc. Merely commenting on some crappy post about ones vacations or food or pet or some political slogan and such (which is what it usually is) with at best 2-3 one sentence reply reactions is not exactly it, or it's a very low and basic form of it.