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Technically it is, but it is much more than that in reality. All my friends use Facebook to create parties and announce sudden gatherings. I don't use facebook

Technically it is, but it is much more than that in reality. All my friends use Facebook to create parties and announce sudden gatherings. I don't use facebook to much more than to know when these things occur so I can participate but if I were to deactivate my account it would mean that I would probably miss out on some of these gatherings. I'd rather just keep my account and post as little as possible in order to just recieve that information. Even if I personally do not like facebook, pretty much everyone else does. What can you do?

T-zex 9y ago
Are people, who can't be bothered to send you an SMS, email or give a call to invite you into a party, actually, your friends?
- coldtea 9y ago
  That.
- staticelf 9y ago
  Some closer friends might, but several of these people doesn't have my phone number or email. I participate in several groups and people often write "does someone want to do something today?" etc. To message every single one every time and ask would be too much of a task. Of course you could create a mailinglist but then you'd have to convince everyone to use that instead which I know would be impossible. But to answer your question, yes.
- seanwilson 9y ago
  Are people that can't be bothered to mail you a letter really your friend? Facebook is an efficient form of communication that the vast majority of people use. I'd expect close friends to go out of their way to contact me but you have to accept that by not using Facebook you're going to miss out on things and creating an inconvenience for people. SMS and email aren't as efficient for arranging group events.
  - exergy 9y ago
    > by not using Facebook you're going to miss out on things This is the beginning and the end of all the thought that should be put into this matter. Missing things is not the end of the world, since there is so much to do in life anyway. More importantly, I think the benefits of fb are greatly exaggerated. In Europe at least, it seems the de facto standard are whatsapp groups of close friends, and that's where things get arranged. Even wedding invites are generally sent out over emails nowadays. Finally, I never get the point of keeping in touch with a zillion people. I prefer not being in touch with high school friends. The endless comparing yourself to others and the 2 AM binge facebooking take a huge toll. Better to get in touch once in a while with old friends and have no idea what they've been up to. It's so much more of an enjoyable conversation. And after it's done, you have the lingering benefit of being able to retire to your cozy, slightly-more-solitudinous-than-normal existence.
    - seanwilson 9y ago
      > > by not using Facebook you're going to miss out on things > This is the beginning and the end of all the thought that should be put into this matter. Missing things is not the end of the world, since there is so much to do in life anyway. Missing out on things isn't the end of the world but what's the big deal of keeping up with what's going on? It's minimal effort to be signed up to Facebook so you can receive messages and event invites. > More importantly, I think the benefits of fb are greatly exaggerated. In Europe at least, it seems the de facto standard are whatsapp groups of close friends, and that's where things get arranged. Even wedding invites are generally sent out over emails nowadays. So if Facebook was the de facto standard for communication where you live you'd be OK with it? My point is just use what your friends are using to keep in touch and don't make a big deal about it. If Facebook, WhatsApp or whatever is having a large unhealthy influence on your life that's something you should fix about yourself.
  - KGIII 9y ago
    2 billion monthly users, as of mid-2017 and according to Google. Maybe there's something to the idea that it is losing popularity? That doesn't seem like a vast majority and I seem to recall higher reported numbers in the past. I haven't paid too much attention, however.

T-zex 9y ago

Are people, who can't be bothered to send you an SMS, email or give a call to invite you into a party, actually, your friends?

coldtea 9y ago
That.
staticelf 9y ago
Some closer friends might, but several of these people doesn't have my phone number or email. I participate in several groups and people often write "does someone want to do something today?" etc. To message every single one every time and ask would be too much of a task. Of course you could create a mailinglist but then you'd have to convince everyone to use that instead which I know would be impossible. But to answer your question, yes.
seanwilson 9y ago
Are people that can't be bothered to mail you a letter really your friend? Facebook is an efficient form of communication that the vast majority of people use. I'd expect close friends to go out of their way to contact me but you have to accept that by not using Facebook you're going to miss out on things and creating an inconvenience for people. SMS and email aren't as efficient for arranging group events.
- exergy 9y ago
  > by not using Facebook you're going to miss out on things This is the beginning and the end of all the thought that should be put into this matter. Missing things is not the end of the world, since there is so much to do in life anyway. More importantly, I think the benefits of fb are greatly exaggerated. In Europe at least, it seems the de facto standard are whatsapp groups of close friends, and that's where things get arranged. Even wedding invites are generally sent out over emails nowadays. Finally, I never get the point of keeping in touch with a zillion people. I prefer not being in touch with high school friends. The endless comparing yourself to others and the 2 AM binge facebooking take a huge toll. Better to get in touch once in a while with old friends and have no idea what they've been up to. It's so much more of an enjoyable conversation. And after it's done, you have the lingering benefit of being able to retire to your cozy, slightly-more-solitudinous-than-normal existence.
  - seanwilson 9y ago
    > > by not using Facebook you're going to miss out on things > This is the beginning and the end of all the thought that should be put into this matter. Missing things is not the end of the world, since there is so much to do in life anyway. Missing out on things isn't the end of the world but what's the big deal of keeping up with what's going on? It's minimal effort to be signed up to Facebook so you can receive messages and event invites. > More importantly, I think the benefits of fb are greatly exaggerated. In Europe at least, it seems the de facto standard are whatsapp groups of close friends, and that's where things get arranged. Even wedding invites are generally sent out over emails nowadays. So if Facebook was the de facto standard for communication where you live you'd be OK with it? My point is just use what your friends are using to keep in touch and don't make a big deal about it. If Facebook, WhatsApp or whatever is having a large unhealthy influence on your life that's something you should fix about yourself.
- KGIII 9y ago
  2 billion monthly users, as of mid-2017 and according to Google. Maybe there's something to the idea that it is losing popularity? That doesn't seem like a vast majority and I seem to recall higher reported numbers in the past. I haven't paid too much attention, however.